watchconcierge Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Hi... As you may know, I'm going through a divorce. I have been NC for almost 2 days after talking... more like fighting for about 3 days following a 6 day NC. The NCs were started by me. Well... I got in touch with a friend who is a bartender in Denver and it turns out that he is going through a break up. He was getting ready to start work, so he couldn't talk about it, but he asked me if I could go to his place and pick up 3 trash bags loaded with his ex gf's makeup, clothes, etc. to take to the place at which she now lives to drop it off. My friend doesn't want to see her nor the guy she moved in with. I can dig that! So... My question is this... Should I hang out with my friend and go through our struggles together? It seems like it, but I want to see what others think. I've seen people get together and talk about devious things or miserable things and they just get more and more negative. This is a good guy. Very upbeat. But he's going through pain right now... just like me. Looking forward to your comments. TIA T
frd150 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Isnt that whay we are all here in the first place? You dont have to meet to be devious or anything like that . It could be just the two of getting together for a beer and talking about the situations. Yes, misery loves company but that company can be a good source of support.
taylor3205 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 I would say go for it. It need'nt be all doom and gloom every time you hang out. I would love for a friend to talk to/hang out with who was going through the exact same thing that I am atm, someone who totally understands and doesent just come out with phrases like 'you desrve better', 'plenty more fish in the sea', 'its time you got over it' etc etc etc.
Author watchconcierge Posted January 11, 2008 Author Posted January 11, 2008 I would say go for it. It need'nt be all doom and gloom every time you hang out. I would love for a friend to talk to/hang out with who was going through the exact same thing that I am atm, someone who totally understands and doesent just come out with phrases like 'you desrve better', 'plenty more fish in the sea', 'its time you got over it' etc etc etc. LOL... It gets irritating to hear somebody who's not experiencing the same pain tell you to 'man up.' Seems like we all forget how tough it is when we've healed and it's time to help somebody else. Thanks for the advice, guys.
s_n_d Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 You should definitely do it. I think it will help you both a lot. And whats better than going through your struggles with someone else.
Lee725 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 absolutely catch up with him, it will help you both! There is nothing better at this time than someone that understands exactly.
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