bozwa Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 Hey, I would be sad, too. There's nothing you can do for your friend, and that's hard to deal with. It's even sadder (word? lol) that she hasn't learned anything from moving so quickly in the past and doesn't exercise more caution than she does. She strikes me as desparate for love and marriage, but doesn't wish to take the time to make sure of the quality of the man before she takes that step. I'm sorry about how you're feeling, but you have to let her fall on her own - however difficult that may be to watch from afar.
Author HeavenScent Posted January 14, 2008 Author Posted January 14, 2008 Update on my situation, not that I am in a big one but we are now on speaking terms. She said she needs to trust both of us and she does. Linda said Richard is loyal and she knows I wouldn't do anything to hurt our friendship and she hopes we all can be good friends. So.... Richard emailed me and asked if I was going to be online later and he said, he knew I had blocked him because he asked Linda if she was chatting with me and she said yes and how come Richard didn't see me? In his email, he asked if it would be possible to cam me..... I can show Linda the email but it says nothing that it is from Richard. He used an entirely different email account which I think he registered recently.... How do I make Linda see that this guy is a jerk?
D-Lish Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Come on- he asked you to stand up and mentioned "wow".... That's not someone who is serious about your friend. That's a guy fishing for whatever he can get. It's tough- telling your friend this sort of stuff.... I would certainly remove myself from the situation asap. No more 3 ways convos- no more talking to him at all. Take him off your contact list. She will get mad if you tell her- she might not believe you- because she doesn't want to. But whether you tell her or not- I would immediately remove yourself from this 3 way. If he's the creep we all know he is- he'll show his true colours to her in due time. Tough situation. I had a friend tell me my bf hit on her- and I was so upset that I ended my friendship with her.... I was dumb (21).... but he showed his true colours and I dumped him. It's a tough call- if you tell her- she could blame you. But I'd stay away from him.
Lishy Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Honey dont do it - Your friend sounds a bit naive and she will think you set a honey trap beacuse you are jealous Just let her get on with hit and tell him that you do not feel comfortable talking to him. Job done!
Krytie TV Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 How do I make Linda see that this guy is a jerk? Don't worry. She will all on her own. Get some popcorn ready and watch the show... it'll be fun.
Teuen101 Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Rule of thumb: you should have never told her about this - what you should have done is walked away from it or just stayed out of it b/c in the end you're the one who will look bad and she will hate you and not talk to you for it. I told a friend once his woman was cheating on him and he didn't talk to me for a year. pfft for now on i say nothing b/c for some reason when you;re honest and try to tell them they hate you for it go figure
Teuen101 Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 after she they split up she will come back around and be friends with you again. But as for me I would never tell no matter what they could be doing it right in front of me. I learned my lesson. its better just to know and support them when they come to you offer ideas or drop hints help them figure it out
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