dolphin08 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Over a period of about a week, on a trip I was on, I became friends with a handful of very attractive girls. Picture the following scenario: My attractive female friends were scattered around the bar of the hotel that we are all staying at, and each girl was chatting with a random guy or a group of random guys. My response was to stay away from them, in order to not interrupt their flirting or cockblock the guys they were talking to. However, this strategy seems flawed for two reasons. First of all, I have a right to spend time with my friends, and it seems stupid that every time some random dude decides to talk to them, I need to turn invisible. Second, who is to say that the guys they're talking to aren't sleezes? However, since I only knew these girls for a week, I couldn't tell when they wanted to escape a conversation or when they wanted to continue. They tend to innocently flirt with most people, regardless of attraction. In the future, what should I do when I am in a similar situation with attractive female friends? Should I continue to make myself invisible, or is there a better strategy? I hope there is! ...in fact, I would think there must be a way to leverage my friendships with attractive women in order to attract other women. Any advice would be most appreciated .
oppath Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 In the future, what should I do when I am in a similar situation with attractive female friends? Should I continue to make myself invisible, or is there a better strategy? I hope there is! You talk to the random guys too! And then you take the girl you are most interested in, grab her hand, and say "come on, let's go check out the jukebox."
Lucasarts Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 i would say hang around your attractive friends (especially if they are girls/women) because that means that even though you may only be friends with them, other girls will notice the company you keep (and wonder...how he surrounded by beautiful women? he must have something). As for the cockblocking.... unless the guys are your friends (and really good friends) then who cares? they gotta step up their game, getting the girl they want away from you. Now if your a chick, well then still follow the same advice (girls who stay with a group of cute girls all tend to look more attractive...) and b/c your friends with girls, then i dont see why u have to make yourself anymore invisible. Oh and why dont u hit on your attractive girlfriends? if u only know them so far for a week, then what's there to lose?
Author dolphin08 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 I just don't want to piss off my friends. I worry that if I hang around them and make it harder for other guys to approach them, I'm screwing with their game (the girls' game). Is that true or not true? I also don't want to appear needy or clingy by sticking around.
Krytie TV Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 If they do feel that way about it then you should have enough self respect to not hang out with them. Real friends wouldn't object to your company... ever. And they may even be curious about your opinion of the guys.
Author dolphin08 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 Well, I just assumed they felt that way because I'm not used to hanging out with gorgeous girls. If you're saying that decent people wouldn't object to my company, then I'm sure they wouldn't object to my company. If that's the consensus, then I won't be making any more beelines to the exits in the future.
Lucasarts Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 uhhh only times i leave my friends would be when something has caught my eye (a beautiful woman, a piece of artwork, an expensive guitar, a sleek car, etc) as it has something about it to separate me from my comfort zone. Your friends (these gorgeous girls) shouldn't object to your company, and if they are taking you along with them to clubs and bars, then why would they want you to just leave them alone when they are there? Also, hanging around beautiful woman and seeing how a man works her and her friends is also interesting to observe, you dont necessarily need to say anything or try to be chummy (if the guys an a-hole or a creep, why pretend to be nice?) with the him. Like i said before, why dont you try hitting on these girls yourselves? unless there was some sort of agreement that you guys are just friends, why did they befriend you in the first place?
oppath Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 If you are with a group of girls, chances are, someone in the group will prefer your company to a random guy. Girls do enjoy being hit on but often want to hang with their friends too. Guys with the best game often are under the radar in that they penetrate the group as just another guy. Stay with your friends. They will give you signs to give them space, or more appropriately, if a guy has good game he will lead the woman away from the group. My female friends are often glad I hang around. If they want to flirt with a guy, they will, and they will let me know. However, often they want the guy to LEAVE after a short while. They often want me to cockblock. Many times I've had them look over to me and mouth "Help" from across the bar when I give them space. Then it gets really awkward because I'm not trying to pick her up, I'm just making conversation, and the other dude is sitting right there. "Dude, you have no game." "Well, that's because I'm not trying to pick her up. I'm trying to get the conversation away from you so you will leave." Talk to the guys too. Keep talking to your friends. If the guy is good, he'll lead and isolate the woman, taking her away from the group. Your friends will give you signs if they want you to leave. Don't assume it.
crosswordfiend Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Sometimes the guys are also in mixed company, so by talking to them you can potentially meet the girls they came with.
oppath Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Sometimes the guys are also in mixed company, so by talking to them you can potentially meet the girls they came with. Yeah, if this is the case, just ask them (after you've talked to them for a couple mintues) "so which one of those girls is your girlfriend? I wouldn't want to make the mistake of accidentally hitting on her." The answer doesn't matter. He can have a gf or be single. Your response is "would you be willing to introduce me?"
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