Mistaken Identity Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 As I've posted before, I've been emailing a guy I had a crush on in high school years ago. After about three weeks of emails, he asked me out. To get to the point, while we were on the phone arranging the date, his job called to tell him he was fired. He was half-expecting it because two days earlier he had been asked to turn in his badge and clean out his desk. After as he got the news, he said he would have to take a rain check on our date. He still emails me almost every day, worrying about being unemployed. But that is almost the extent of his message. Is he phasing me out? Or is he really so preoccupied and worried that he just can't lighten up? Sorry if I'm dense. BTW: Jilly Bean, I don't need your rude comments.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Men often base their worth on their accomplishments- which often translate to their jobs. If he was fired (hmm... it takes a lot to lose your badge if you're a cop...not sure if he's a cop), perhaps he is just feeling crappy and trying to pull his stuff together before dating. It might just be a matter of regaining some of his composure before he feels good enough to take you on a date. Give it time, don't give up just yet.
whichwayisup Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 He lost his job and he's upset by that. All you can do is give him time and space...Keep emailing him but don't put any pressure on him as per dating and going out, seems he isn't up to that right now.
Author Mistaken Identity Posted January 11, 2008 Author Posted January 11, 2008 Thanks D-lish. No, he's not a cop; it's just an id badge.
D-Lish Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Thanks D-lish. No, he's not a cop; it's just an id badge. LOL, okay- that's good then. I'd just give him some time. When he feels better about his job situation, he'll change his tune. He probably needs to feel more secure with his situation before he feels worthy enough to date you... so I def wouldn't give up on him. ;-)
Author Mistaken Identity Posted January 11, 2008 Author Posted January 11, 2008 Thanks, you're giving me hope.
LovesDog Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 He's just pre-occupied. Just give the guy some time. LOL on the Jilly Bean comment - I feel the same way!!!
Legend Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 I know I go into my cave when I don't have a job and don't have a grasp on my life...
EYECANDY000 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 If you two are still emailing each other then try to be empathetic about his situation. He probaly feels like since he doesnt have a job, all of his funds have to go to his other priorities and not an expensive meal. Any person who have lost their job and have responsiblilities would be hurt . Try to be there and give him encouragement! Im sure once he finds a job the date will be back on!!!!!
Lee725 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 I am with everyone else here, bit lost without a job, caught up in it. Be supportive, see him through it, don't feel phased out just yet!
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