bozwa Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 On one hand I can relate, and on another I can't. My boyfriend is also a "gamer". Now when we FIRST got together, we went out, we did things together, just hung out together, so on and so forth, but he did warn me: "I have a gaming hobby, it takes up a lot of my time. I just want you to know this and be aware because I've had relationships end in the past over this." I shrugged it off thinking "Oh, it's just a little hobby." HAHAHAHAHA!! :laugh: Oh it's a hobby alright, and I can see why relationships have ended with him in the past. We've had many an arguement over the time he spends on the game. This is where I relate to your story. Where I don't relate: We've talked about it (over the many arguements lol) and have compromised. Yes he has had relationships end over his gaming because he spent so much time and was never willing to compromise. Where I think it is different with me is that he IS willing to compromise and come to an agreement with me on the subject, where he hasn't been willing to do this in past relationships. This relationship is solid and he doesn't want it to end over something as silly as gaming. I would never want to make him give up his "hobby", it's something he enjoys and loves doing; why would I ever take that away from him?? So we have found a way where we both can have our cake and eat it, too. His wants and needs and my wants and needs are taken care of. Compromise is a beautiful thing. No more fighting! This may sound harsh, but it just sounds to me that gaming is more important to him than your wants and needs. My bf would never make me go through a hard situation alone or get mad at me for how I was feeling. Maybe it's time to have a really long talk with your man -- what are his intentions and is the relationship worth saving or is he just biding time?
Teuen101 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 I think what happens to most of us is the fact that we get so much hung up why we've put so much time and effort into some one who don't care and I think that what this comes too. Sounds like you're useing all you're power to change him when in fact we cannot change people.. So you sit and pound you're head on the wall wondering why this guy isn't panning out trying to get him to love you back or giving you the time of day. sounds like you've invested you're heart into him expecting him to love you and can't understand why he is rejecting it. best thing is NC
Author PerfectXPretty Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 Last night i had gone over to his mom mom's house to talk to her & let her know what was going on because thats what i usually do. We have a flyers game planned for next week which tickets were bought weeks ago & a concert to go to next month that we're staying over two nights for. However.. His mom mom must have said something to him because i get a text message from him today stating: "ok first off.. stop going to my mommom. I dont go to your family or friends about anything so dont go to mine. Second thing we have plans that are paid for and we're still going. Third thing is i need space right now and im not contacting you again til those plans come up. and i said Absolutely nothing to him because i dont even feel like arguing with him. His mom mom told me last night that she had felt bad for me because he's left me hanging for a week.. well i dont know what to do, if he's not answering.. i figured .. well whatever i'll just talk to her & she probably had told him to straighten things out with me, but who knows.
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