watchconcierge Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 If you're doing the NC thing like I was for more than 6 days, don't start reading this forum about second chances... It could very likely cause you to break the No Contact rule that you have set for yourself. It caused me to break the NC rule after I made tremendous progress. I talked to my ex and she had been feeling very needy because of the NC that I instituted without telling her. I was not returning texts and calls. So I told her that I'd like to work slowly on getting things worked out and getting back together within the next year. She was very happy about this. But the conversations and texts deteriorated within the half day and turned into some very heated exchanges. I was feeling like she had the upper hand and that I couldn't institute the NC rule. I felt like I needed to talk to her... ie 'needy.' lol BUT things changed yesterday afternoon when I caught her spying on me while visiting a girl. I accused her of stalking (not legally), and said it grossed me out. She has called me and texted me repeatedly, but I'm not responding. I'm now at 16 plus hours of NC and am not gonna break it this time. There is a reason why I left and a reason why we've been unable to get back together for more than two months. A little bit of NC can make both parties dream about getting back together and happy to talk about it. But in my experience this time, we quickly started into the fighting... Not good. Thanks for giving me a place to vent.
PinkRibbon Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Sometimes you need a reminder as to why the realtionship failed. Maybe that small contact made you remember. I am sorry though it didn't work out. Maybe later on down the road but in the meantime enjoy your time to your self.
s_n_d Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Sometimes you need a reminder as to why the realtionship failed. Maybe that small contact made you remember. I am sorry though it didn't work out. Maybe later on down the road but in the meantime enjoy your time to your self. I agree with PinkRibbon
Lee725 Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 There is a reason why I left and a reason why we've been unable to get back together for more than two months. If a lot more people could believe this, the hearts on here would only be broken once. To believe wholeheartedly that there is a reason you broke up and that same reason is why you are not back together, is a main stumbling block in my view to moving on.
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