Stereogram Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I've recently began seeing this girl. We met at work and she approached me after work was over one day and asked if we could maybe get some dinner or hang out some time. I was really impressed with her boldness and confidence...which I'm really a sucker for. This woman reads like 50 books a year, is educated, has a good job, and has a nice easygoing personality/attitude. She is just an excellent person and was raised right. I find things about her attractive...she has a very pretty face and beautiful eyes. We get along great...we really like each other.... The problem I'm having is getting intimate with her...I simply find the idea of having sex with her unappealing. She's a bit on the heavy side...not obese...just not in very good shape. I'm just not turned on by her. We make out and hug and cuddle...but I can't see myself going further than this. I must admit...I've been spoiled. I've always been girls who had absolutely stunning bodies which made sex AMAZING. It's just that these girls were always lacking upstairs and I always knew that we didn't have a real future together. I know that looks are fleeting...and you can criticize me...but I find looks important. I like to know that the person I like/love is taking care of themselves. Healthy bodies bring healthy minds, confidence, etc. These days it's very common to see a beautiful woman with a man lacking in the looks department. Women typically value character first...and looks a close second. However, you rarely see a handsome man with cow for a wife. It's not to say I'm some Adonis...but I've always got a lot attention with my looks. It is, after all, the reason this girl (and many others) approached me to begin with. Is there any hope for me getting over her appearance? Thoughts?
LN99 Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Chances are you won't get over this. It's already in your mind how you feel about her appearance. But let me ask you this...have you ever tried being with a heavier woman sexually? You shouldn't knock it until you try it. But then again.....if you just aren't turned on by her....then maybe you are lacking one of the essential elements to any relationship. So, if you don't see yourself getting sexual with her nor do you desire to...do the right thing and end things with her. She deserves a man who will desire her for her mind and her body. I'm sure also you will find what you are looking for.....someone sexually desireable and smart.
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