Lucky555 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Has anyone had this happen to them? So the guy that i dated and he is delusional! How can he think this is "seeing someone" : never called never made plans never talks to me etc has no problem flirting in front of me Still tries to control the situation and keeps me at a distance never lets me in. HE basically uses me to hang out with him this is my assertion HE never leaves his house! He has not dated anyone else because i think hes afraid of being rejected. So hes trying to get a piece of a** while not having to do anything VERY NICE TRY. He even referred to this thing as a GAME and i am like huh?! He has issues clearly and i clearly need to get HAPPY! I acutally feel better today but still slightly annoyed because I don't want to see him unhappy but he does not care how i feel at all. Well hes mad because i am moving on. Hes upset i know and yet i still feel bad why why why! I wish i could slap myself and say "BE SMART this dude is no good and a player so stop feeling this way! "
LoveLace Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 A guy that never calls or never wants to talk to you, then refers to your relationship as a game...I know I don't date the biggest winners myself...but this is a no-brainer, keep moving on, he'll get over it.
MakeLemonade Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 The "why" is a question - even once you are well past and over this guy, it would be very good for you to answer for yourself if you can, because the why is possibly going to land you in more relationships that are similar to this in the future. In this particular instance this is obvious - he is a complete and utter jerk, selfish and apparently oblivious to anyone else but himself. Just let it go. It shouldn't take you long to move on once you get the momentum going in the right direction. And don't beat yourself up for actually caring about this guy and what he is feeling either, that is just human nature. To care about other people. For most humans anyway.
Lee725 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 He has not dated anyone else because i think hes afraid of being rejected. Without sounding mean, do you feel the same way about yourself? I was wondering this because why else would you bother to waste your time on someone who has done/said these things? You may care about him but he doesn't seem to care for you, otherwise he would not openly try to "play", you. You seem level headed about the situation, you know you need/deserve something different to what he is doing/giving you. As much as you care about him, you probably need a partner/lover not a agoraphobic who makes you question what is going on in the "dating" stage of your relationship.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 "I was wondering this because why else would you bother to waste your time on someone who has done/said these things?" I knew we had become really great friends in the beginning. We would laugh and have a great time. Even when we meet in person hes nice to me and always tries to get close. But hes just become selfish when it came to more than friends and everything i have mentioned. He does not talk about anything, if i confront him he just becomes apprehensive. When hes around me he is really nervous and almost scarred until he has alcohol. He really is scared and also a bit guilty looking. He then will warm up to me and be really friendly but continue the previously mentioned behavior after the night is over. I myself meet other people. I have recently met a good guy while going out and i plan to meet more guys and just have fun. Maybe find someone great I am just not understanding his behaviors he should not be mad at me for Moving on because he himself can't move on? Maybe he does not want to see anyone else happy? I believe he has issues to deal with, like his ex contacting him and wanting him back does not help. I think he is almost stringing me along to help himself from going back to her. I also believe he had a major depression when his ex left him. So yeah i feel like he needs help and that can't be me.
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