jdeedee Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Am I the only one here who has this thought pop into their mind once in a while: "Man she'll miss me sometime, I was such a good boyfriend. She has no idea what she's lost" How selfish right? Like I am special for not beating or cheating. Like I am doing such a great justice by arriving on time to pick her up from work, tossing out some compliments in the morning or cooking dinner on occasion. Sometimes I have to just get over myself. I was talking to an ex from highschool a few nights ago, she told me all those things, "You know you treated me better than any boyfriend I've ever had, but you were a pushover. You need to treat yourself better sometimes." Wish I could listen to her or it was as easily done as said.
Confused9 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I don't think it's selfish to think like that. Right now my X is being a d*ckhead and he cheated, lied, left, treated me like crap and I think he'll miss me someday and regret his decision and I don't feel like that's selfish or I am holding myself at a higher standard. What some ppl do to others while breaking up is dispicable and I hope he does miss me for the rest of his life. I hope I am the 'one' that got away and I hope that I live happily ever after and he doesn't because of what he did to me. Regardless of any of that...it doesn't make this any easier. I spent 7 years of my life with this one person and he left me and treated me like pooop. His off living 'happlily ever after or so he says. That kills me. That rips my heart out. Everytime I think of it...it breaks my heart all over again. I have no idea what the point of my post is...sorry.
Lee725 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Am I the only one here who has this thought pop into their mind once in a while: "Man she'll miss me sometime, I was such a good boyfriend. She has no idea what she's lost" How selfish right? No you are not the only one, i have thought it time & time again. Sometimes they do miss you and try to come back, in my situation it has always been after i have moved on. No you are not selfish, you gave a lot to the relationship, it is only natural to feel like you want something back & right now because you are not in the relationship, her missing you and the good things you done, believe it or not is a way of "getting something back". (hope that came out right )
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Yeah , I knew they start sniffing when I done moved on. By the time I came to think about it and they came crawling around I just didnt care anymore. And it felt good.
brothermartin Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Yes, it is selfish. But in a good way. See, you were a good guy from what you wrote. That kind of stuff, people tend to take for granted once they know they have you in there grasp. But then when the leave and see that the world is NOT spilling over with people like that, that's when they start to realize they did make a mistake by letting us "get away.":)
PinkRibbon Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I say the same thing and often. I know one day he will miss me and regret his decision. Doesn't mean he will come back but he will miss me. I know from talking to his friends that no one has ever wanted so much for him or tried to give so much. Plus on a snarky note...I have some intimate pictures of some of his ex girlfriends and yes he definately will miss me.
s_n_d Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I told myself that this morning. I even directly told my ex that "NO woman will ever love you as much as I do"... Yes..I cant believe those words actually came out of my mouth. He then replied with a "I know." But I really think he couldnt handle a relationship at this point in his life. It was getting too hectic. He got a promotion at work and the fact that he is now working ALL THE TIME is an interferance.
starlite Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Am I the only one here who has this thought pop into their mind once in a while: "Man she'll miss me sometime, I was such a good boyfriend. She has no idea what she's lost" How selfish right? Like I am special for not beating or cheating. Like I am doing such a great justice by arriving on time to pick her up from work, tossing out some compliments in the morning or cooking dinner on occasion. Sometimes I have to just get over myself. I was talking to an ex from highschool a few nights ago, she told me all those things, "You know you treated me better than any boyfriend I've ever had, but you were a pushover. You need to treat yourself better sometimes." Wish I could listen to her or it was as easily done as said. I dont think it is selfish...and those are qualities that are fantastic in a man. I have that thought "I treated him so great and was a fantastic gf...he will miss me and he made a huge mistake"....AND he did! You responded to my thread about the emails. He misses me like crazy, he completely realizes he screwed up. When I found out he cheated 2 months ago I wrote him a letter and I said "I was the best person in your life" and 2 months later I get an email saying "Remember how you said that in your letter, you were right, you were the best I will ever have......" I deserve to be missed!
starlite Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I say the same thing and often. I know one day he will miss me and regret his decision. Doesn't mean he will come back but he will miss me. I know from talking to his friends that no one has ever wanted so much for him or tried to give so much. Plus on a snarky note...I have some intimate pictures of some of his ex girlfriends and yes he definately will miss me. HEHE!! I wrote in an email to my ex "And I am not jealous of the Sara thing...I honestly think she is an unattractive girl and if you were trying to replace me, well, she was a terrible choice." He actually wrote back saying " Sara and I are not together, we never were..and she would never compare to you!" Duh. And Pink, you and I have something in common, my ex's ex's...dont compare. They were lucky to have us.
PinkRibbon Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 So true Starlight. They were very lucky more than they know and now one day some other man will be lucky. I just hope I am lucky and get a great man.
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