x07_dani_x Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 ok well im so sorry if this turns out to be long but i really need help in my relationship. ive been dating an AMAZING guy for the past 3 months and we have both told eachother that we love one another and i know that i mean it...im actually falling in love with him because hes so amazing. the problem however, is that everytime almost now that we talk or see eachother, we wind up arguiing and im crying. he just told me the other day that he doesnt even think of me as a girlfriend now because i supposedy dont act affectionate enough or show him how much i love him. he said that he only told me that he loves me that one day because i was "different" that day....and when i remember back to that day, i KNOW that ive been doing the exact same kinds of things since and i havent heard i love you one time since then....hes hurting me because hes saying that i dont SHOW him how much i care enough but like for example, last night on the phone we argued because he said that i was caring TOO MUCH??? oh my God. and this is my first real relationship...im 19 hes 21....and he is the only person in my life that i can count on right now and i love him SOO much and i just wish that i knew what is going on....he says that he doesnt want to break up with me because he does care but that he doesnt know why i cant show him how much i love him....ive even told him that i would do ANYTHING for him....and as far as sex goes, he knows that its very important to me to wait til i know that im with someone that i want to spend my life with...and respects that.......so i know its not like hes just asking for sex from me....but he tells me that i dont kiss him/hug him/ or anything enough BUT I DO...ALL THE TIME....please i need so much help.....he means the world to me and i would be lost without him in my life......please help:( Danielle email your advice also please to [email protected] this is soo urgent for me...i see him later tonight
EYECANDY000 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 It sounds like hes not sure what it is that he wants. If he is constantly making you cry over the things that you have been doing for the longest, then he may be trying to knit pick to get you to break up with him. Try asking him particulary what it is that you have done differently from when you two started dating and up until now. You dont need to be with someone who is making you an emotional wreck! Especially since he isnt giving you examples of what it is that you are doing wrong. and also kudos for waiting to be with someone who you feel will be your soulmate
ElvenPriestess Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 He has his own issues and is being immature. Did he give you specific things he wants you to do that you TRULY aren't? Are you sure he isn't using this against you because he wants sex? I hate game and he's toying with you. He's being small and petty. If someone says they love you, they say it based on who you are, not HOW you are one day to the next day. Geeze. Hang in there.
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