Lizzie60 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 When a woman is promiscuous, everybody say she's being 'used'. When is the male being used? never? I think this is a 'macho' way of thinking. What if she IS using them... Any comments.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I've used men sexually/emotionally before. People who knew me back then never mistook it for the other way around, either.
tanbark813 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 So basically you're saying it's wrong for males to consider themselves using females so you're going to turn around and so the same thing you just stated was wrong? Wasn't high school over for you many decades ago?
ElvenPriestess Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 if a woman uses a man it's unfair and disgraceful as it will likely lead to him hurting. That's not right to do to anybody.
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 So basically you're saying it's wrong for males to consider themselves using females so you're going to turn around and so the same thing you just stated was wrong? Wasn't high school over for you many decades ago? Where did I say it was wrong for men to use women? Yes.. High school was over many decades ago... but I can see that you have doubled a few classes...
tanbark813 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Where did I say it was wrong for men to use women? It was implied. Yes.. High school was over many decades ago... but I can see that you have doubled a few classes... Wow, good one. What classes? Responding to Meaningless, Hypocritical Posts By People Who Constantly Post About Their Sex Life In A Transparent And Vain Effort To Justify Their Insecurities 101?
ElvenPriestess Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I'm trying to understand the point of this. Is the question a "so what" if men are used and trashed for women's selfish needs? No it's not ok.
lovelorcet Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 It was implied. Wow, good one. What classes? Responding to Meaningless, Hypocritical Posts By People Who Constantly Post About Their Sex Life In A Transparent And Vain Effort To Justify Their Insecurities 101? That class has gotten old and rather boring.
Sifu Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I think I fell asleep in that class. Are you on a parallel idea with "a woman that sleeps around is a slut, but a guy that sleeps around is a stud"? If so, blame the patriarchal society. I've been a user and a usee - done properly, it all balances out and everyone's happy. People like to kid themselves that they'd NEVER use someone else. Bulldinky. We all use people - it's just HOW you do it that matters, and whether the recipient wants to be used that way.
CaliGuy Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 When a woman is promiscuous, everybody say she's being 'used'. When is the male being used? never? I think this is a 'macho' way of thinking. What if she IS using them... Any comments. If a woman is being promiscuous, she isn't being used. She is using others. A male is being used when the woman has ulterior motives (her own satisfaction) where there is an expectation of a relationship. In other words, if she is using him for physical gratification and he is expecting a LTR, that's a huge issue. Many of these things can be overcome by simple communication. (And if a man is being used, it's up to him to put his foot down and get it straightend out or kick her to the curb...)
CaliGuy Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I think I fell asleep in that class. Are you on a parallel idea with "a woman that sleeps around is a slut, but a guy that sleeps around is a stud"? If so, blame the patriarchal society. They're both sluts, IMHO.
SeraBella Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I haven't really heard many people considering promiscuous woman being 'used'. I've heard them called sluts, and also the argument of why is a woman called a slut but it's ok for a man do to that...but I'm not so sure about the being used thing.
KittenMoon Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 IMHO- When a woman sleeps around, she's promiscuous. When a man sleeps around, he's promiscous. I have no sympathy for those they sleep with, unless the situation was misrepresented. And for me, male or female, they're both sluts, but that doesn't much matter because I'm not, nor will be, one of their partners.
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 IMHO- When a woman sleeps around, she's promiscuous. When a man sleeps around, he's promiscous. I have no sympathy for those they sleep with, unless the situation was misrepresented. And for me, male or female, they're both sluts, but that doesn't much matter because I'm not, nor will be, one of their partners. Huh??? how can you say that? Do you investigate the past of all your partners?
Trimmer Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 When a woman is promiscuous, everybody say she's being 'used'. When is the male being used? never? Lizzie, you tend to use extreme, all encompassing words like "everybody", "never" and "all" (as in "all men would cheat")... I don't accept your premise that "everybody" - or anything near to it - says she is being used, nor that men are "never" perceived as being used. So my comment is: I can't comment on a premise I believe to be faulty in the first place.
TudorII Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I remember a time in my dating days that I discovered I was just being used sexually for about a month. What a month it was! Use and abuse me!!
a4a Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I remember a time in my dating days that I discovered I was just being used sexually for about a month. What a month it was! Use and abuse me!! I recall a certain somebody sniffing the sisters panties too. So used the gf to get to the sisters panties?
TudorII Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I recall a certain somebody sniffing the sisters panties too. So used the gf to get to the sisters panties? I will never live that down will I? We all use someone in some capcity and don't even reliaze it most of the time. Whether it be financially, emotionally, physically, etc and yes sometimes just to get a whiff of roomies panties! LOL
a4a Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I will never live that down will I? We all use someone in some capcity and don't even reliaze it most of the time. Whether it be financially, emotionally, physically, etc and yes sometimes just to get a whiff of roomies panties! LOL You are with someone because you get something out of it. and yes you are the PANTY SNIFFER
Sifu Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I remember a time in my dating days that I discovered I was just being used sexually for about a month. What a month it was! Use and abuse me!! Ah, yes - reminds me of 1976-1979...we were all- AHEM...sorry. Carry on.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 When a woman is promiscuous, everybody say she's being 'used'. When is the male being used? never? I think this is a 'macho' way of thinking. What if she IS using them... Any comments. A woman and man who sleeps around consciously knows what she's doing. Everyone can paint the woman like the victim but if she encourages it she's a ho. and the man is a man-whore or swinging cat, depending on which way he presents himself. The man is only being used when the woman promises him something and she boldfaces lies about it!! And p.s. I like the picture of your chest better, it made me drool. lol.
Author Lizzie60 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 A woman and man who sleeps around consciously knows what she's doing. Everyone can paint the woman like the victim but if she encourages it she's a ho. and the man is a man-whore or swinging cat, depending on which way he presents himself. The man is only being used when the woman promises him something and she boldfaces lies about it!! And p.s. I like the picture of your chest better, it made me drool. lol. hahaha... then look at the pic on my profile..
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 hahaha... then look at the pic on my profile.. God I wanna bang you so badly!!! lol. You is crazy! lol.
whichwayisup Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 God I wanna bang you so badly!!! lol. You is crazy! lol. CB, you're not married are you?? Lizzie, I like the pic you had up yesterday better.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 CB, you're not married are you?? Lizzie, I like the pic you had up yesterday better. Nah I'm not married, I'm a single black guy just doing his thing trying to make money. I'd like to be married someday but they way these women be double faced, why bother? lol.
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