DJ Dancer Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Ok I have sveral threads on here trying to cope and get through this break up that happened 9 months ago(yeah I know) but its like everyday my mind comes up with new ideas that make me worry... OKay now did I break up with him the right way? The day I decided to end things I had called him after I got out of class, but he didn't answer so I left him a message saying "I called to talk to you about something but you are probably still asleep, So I will just write you on myspace and leave you a short sweet and to the point message (he doesn't like reading long notes I sent him a long heart felt letter and he said he would read it but I know he didn't) and I hung up........ So I got home sat there for a minute before I worte the message to him, I waited to see if he would call me back before I wrote it, So I went on ahead and wrote the message saying " I thought about it and you were right about the distance and its obvious to see what needs to be done. We should just break this relationship off and remain friends i'm still gonna be the same young lady you met no changing with me and I'm still going to be there to support you and your music, I hope we can be friends if thats cool with you?" I sent it and waited for a little bit and then I felt like it would be better to talk to him over the phone about it.... So I called him this time and blocked my number and he answered and he was like who is this and I said who I was and he was like "Oh hey what's up I'm busy so I'm gonna call you right back I promise I'm busy I'm gonna call you back" and I said all I need is just a little bit of your time and he was like I'm busy Im gonna call you back he was just basically rushing me off the phone so I hung up.. feeling hurt because I really wanted to talk to him over the phone to see what he felt and so we can talk about it maturely.... So I'm guessing he got my voicemail and I had logged into myspace and seen that he was on too, a few minutes later he writes me back and said "That's what's up sweetheart what can be friends just keep in touch with me, but yeah I'm gonna call you later ok" wich he never did...My question is did I break up with him right? and Did I give him enough time?? because that was my second time talking to him over the phone since he had left after two weeks and I was only speaking to him through myspace and i was the only one making contact and we would go 2-4 days without aword unless I spoke first....
Lishy Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I think waht has happened is that you broke up with him when you didnt really want to and because he never responded or begged you back it has sparked your interest in him again It happened 9 months ago and it was you who ended it so I am guessing the above is why it is still affecting you!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 I think waht has happened is that you broke up with him when you didnt really want to and because he never responded or begged you back it has sparked your interest in him again It happened 9 months ago and it was you who ended it so I am guessing the above is why it is still affecting you! Your right I really didn't want to do it but I had no choice I was guessing everyday since the day he left where we stood in the relationship and i asked him the night before he left through an email because he was out with friends and I didn't get a chance to see him( and I asked him could we meet up but he said he is going out with friends instead) I asked him where we stood in the relationship and he didn't reply back he just read it..So I took it that he got upset that i asked and didn't reply back, but I wanted to know... And yes it is effecting me because I still have feelings for him and really wanted it to work out, but he wasn;t meeting me half way!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 because he never responded or begged you back it has sparked your interest in him again It happened 9 months ago and it was you who ended it so I am guessing the above is why it is still affecting you! what do you mean in these two quotes??? It didn't sprak interest in him again I just wanted to talk things through but he wasn't trying to talk when I asked about things and spoke what I felt... And what do you mean the above is why it is still affecting me??
Lishy Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Honey he was not even meeting you a quarter of the way The man did not feel the same as you and that is why you are feeling so bad. You need to get to the jist of the problem and be honest with yourself. Allow yourself to feel upset and hurt and mourn the loss of him. We all deal with this at some point in our lives hon and you will get through this (as soon as you meet someone you like as much as him) Poat on here when you feel bad and I am sure people will help you xx
Lishy Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 what do you mean in these two quotes??? It didn't sprak interest in him again I just wanted to talk things through but he wasn't trying to talk when I asked about things and spoke what I felt... And what do you mean the above is why it is still affecting me?? You have read what I wrote in the wrong way I said it sparked YOUR interest in HIM again Honey we all want what we can have, it's a fact of life!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 Honey he was not even meeting you a quarter of the way The man did not feel the same as you and that is why you are feeling so bad. You need to get to the jist of the problem and be honest with yourself. Allow yourself to feel upset and hurt and mourn the loss of him. We all deal with this at some point in our lives hon and you will get through this (as soon as you meet someone you like as much as him) Poat on here when you feel bad and I am sure people will help you xx Thanks and I don't want to feel bad because I know I did the right thing, but I was trying to be a friend to him and he won't even speak to me, I thought the break up was ended on good terms to where we can still speak..
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 You have read what I wrote in the wrong way I said it sparked YOUR interest in HIM again Honey we all want what we can have, it's a fact of life! Yeah your right...
Lishy Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I have felt how you feel right now and it is not nice. It eats you up and you always wonder if you did the right thing. You most certainly did the right thing as he was treating you badly. Too many women stay with men who treat them badly and that is not admirable. So you did the 100% right thing. Only now you have to try to get over the rat bag!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 I have felt how you feel right now and it is not nice. It eats you up and you always wonder if you did the right thing. You most certainly did the right thing as he was treating you badly. Too many women stay with men who treat them badly and that is not admirable. So you did the 100% right thing. Only now you have to try to get over the rat bag! Lol yeah thank you!
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