mental_traveller Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Someone wiser please explain the point of this thread to me.
SeraBella Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I agree with so many on here that there are too many of you to mention. The OP reminds me a bit of my sister. She's of this attitude" "How dare he even think we're in the same league? How can he even think to ask me out?" And we all know the rest of the story, don't we? Or maybe you don't. So I'll tell you: She's 45 and has never been married...no long-term relationships of any consequence. Yep, that's my sis. When I told her all about my new beau 13 years ago, (my H now) she wanted to know how I could POSSIBLY be serious about him since we had totally different tastes in food! :laugh: OH NO! I once broke up with a guy because he was too picky of an eater! There wasn't really any other chemistry there, either. But his eating habits irked me beyond belief. Maybe I'm doomeedddddd.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Someone wiser please explain the point of this thread to me. well, i would call it a 'personal rant or confession', but seeing as it's in the dating section... hmmm... guess i don't really know.
SeraBella Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Someone wiser please explain the point of this thread to me. I won't consider myself wiser, but I think she wanted people to tell her she is better than him and he's an arrogant moron, etc., etc..
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I won't consider myself wiser, but I think she wanted people to tell her she is better than him and he's an arrogant moron, etc., etc.. hopefully, she was looking for a reality check...since that's what she got...
shadowplay Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Geez, cut the poor guy some slack. You seem to have major anger problems.
underpants Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I was trying to remember all the previous user names. From my research this is at least the 3rd thread about this guy. Na, she is not into him at all.
Trialbyfire Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I was trying to remember all the previous user names. From my research this is at least the 3rd thread about this guy. Na, she is not into him at all. Maybe he's no longer into her, now that he's hot and just wanted to let her know...
Author Racquel Colette Posted January 10, 2008 Author Posted January 10, 2008 Yeah but he's not hot, that was my point. He was acting all arrogant and all "eat your heart out" and approached me very forcefully while I was on a machine. He approached me, not the other way around. If he had approached me casually and friendly, that would be good, but it wasn't the case here. His new body (despite that he's not good looking to me) didn't change his arrogant personality. That was the point. I actually was just making an observation and thought it odd at his approach, considering that I had only been kind to him before, despite having put up with his lack of social and conversational skills for two outings.
Mustang Sally Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Huh. This sounds like an episode on Sex and the City. Right? Someone help me out here.....
shadowplay Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Yeah but he's not hot, that was my point. He was acting all arrogant and all "eat your heart out" and approached me very forcefully while I was on a machine. He approached me, not the other way around. If he had approached me casually and friendly, that would be good, but it wasn't the case here. His new body (despite that he's not good looking to me) didn't change his arrogant personality. That was the point. I actually was just making an observation and thought it odd at his approach, considering that I had only been kind to him before, despite having put up with his lack of social and conversational skills for two outings. The question is why do you care? Why do you care enough to start a whole thread about it? Why should it bother you if he thinks he's hot now?
Touche Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 OH NO! I once broke up with a guy because he was too picky of an eater! There wasn't really any other chemistry there, either. But his eating habits irked me beyond belief. Maybe I'm doomeedddddd. Stop being silly. If there was no chemistry, then I don't blame you. The point was though that I told my sis that we had chemistry out the wazoo but didn't like the same cuisine and she said "How could you?" Huh? I mean really! You're not doomed. As for this: I actually was just making an observation and thought it odd at his approach, considering that I had only been kind to him before, despite having put up with his lack of social and conversational skills for two outings. Number one, I want to know why you went out with him more than once, since his social and conversational skills were lacking. Number two, I want to know why you are so put out by his being friendly towards you. I mean since you were so kind to him, as you say, why should he suspect that you're not interested? Might you be sending him mixed messages? And I'm not saying you should be unkind. Just something is not right here.
oppath Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 The question is why do you care? Why do you care enough to start a whole thread about it? Why should it bother you if he thinks he's hot now? Because he took up 10 minutes of her time. How dare he. But is it possible that he had a bunch of attitude, because in the past you were cold hearted and dismissive of him? Perhaps he sensed you were judgmental? If you aren't attracted to a guy, that ain't shallow, and you shouldn't go out with him again. But you did go out with him. So why act like he was at fault for you having a bad time when YOU went out with him. You made the choice to do so. Whatever graces he lacks is not a reason to scream "Oh My God, what a loser." It just was not meant to be, you were not right for each other, just leave it at that.
Author Racquel Colette Posted January 10, 2008 Author Posted January 10, 2008 The question is why do you care? Why do you care enough to start a whole thread about it? Why should it bother you if he thinks he's hot now? I was just posting as a dating experience. You have started a whole bunch of threads that many would see as self-indulgent and a waste of cyberspace, so don't criticize someone else's thread, just skip it. I simply found it amusing that he pretty much gave himself away at the gym instead of being calm, cool, collected, and friendly. Yeah, I guess the Sex and the City analogy was more like it.
Author Racquel Colette Posted January 10, 2008 Author Posted January 10, 2008 Because he took up 10 minutes of her time. How dare he. But is it possible that he had a bunch of attitude, because in the past you were cold hearted and dismissive of him? Perhaps he sensed you were judgmental? If you aren't attracted to a guy, that ain't shallow, and you shouldn't go out with him again. But you did go out with him. So why act like he was at fault for you having a bad time when YOU went out with him. You made the choice to do so. Whatever graces he lacks is not a reason to scream "Oh My God, what a loser." It just was not meant to be, you were not right for each other, just leave it at that. I wasn't cold and dismissive. I went out with him after the first date because I thought I would give him a chance as a friend, but when I explained I only saw him as a friend, he is the one who was rude? I wasn't acting like it was anyone's fault, just that his behavior at the gym was very odd and arrogant. I found it amusing. Sorry you misinterpreted this thread.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I noticed you mentioned his body???? Um if you dont care why are you mentioning his physique??? You like him and it's eating at you. You know it.
oppath Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I went out with him after the first date because I thought I would give him a chance as a friend, but when I explained I only saw him as a friend, he is the one who was rude? He was probably pissed that you would go on a date when you had no interest in it being a date. That pisses me off too, though I realize I need to create a clear sexual/romantic vibe.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 He was probably pissed that you would go on a date when you had no interest in it being a date. That pisses me off too, though I realize I need to create a clear sexual/romantic vibe. Yeah I think that would piss any man out righteously so. It's like if your not gonna be in a relationship or have sex why pretend to do so in the first place. No cool guy likes being used and you used him for your own benefit.
oppath Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Yeah I think that would piss any man out righteously so. It's like if your not gonna be in a relationship or have sex why pretend to do so in the first place. No cool guy likes being used and you used him for your own benefit. Nobody wants a pity date. You gave him a pity date. That would piss me off. Now, if you realized AFTER the date that you weren't a match and would be better as friends, that is a different story.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Nobody wants a pity date. You gave him a pity date. That would piss me off. Now, if you realized AFTER the date that you weren't a match and would be better as friends, that is a different story. A pity date is worse than pity sex, At least your getting sex!!!!
SeraBella Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Yeah I think that would piss any man out righteously so. It's like if your not gonna be in a relationship or have sex why pretend to do so in the first place. No cool guy likes being used and you used him for your own benefit. Isn't there another thread where men were saying they don't mind being used.... oh...that's for sex. No guy likes to be used for a date...but sex is ok.
Mustang Sally Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 A pity date is worse than pity sex, At least your getting sex!!!! Well, maybe she got 2 evenings of free meals? (Relax...I'm KIDDING.)
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Isn't there another thread where men were saying they don't mind being used.... oh...that's for sex. No guy likes to be used for a date...but sex is ok. LMAO!!! Yeah I remember that too. She got the free meal, I got the free ride! we're all good now!!!
Lucasarts Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 im wondering why this thread was originally relevant? i guess maybe some girl was just venting about her anger over some ugly ass guy who thought that by making himself more fit, he became more attractive? anyways i dont know why im posting in here, i guess its the undeniable attraction of writing something that points out how this thread has gone on for 4 pages and really most of it has nothing to do with the OP eh im bored
Author Racquel Colette Posted January 10, 2008 Author Posted January 10, 2008 Stop being silly. If there was no chemistry, then I don't blame you. The point was though that I told my sis that we had chemistry out the wazoo but didn't like the same cuisine and she said "How could you?" Huh? I mean really! You're not doomed. As for this: Number one, I want to know why you went out with him more than once, since his social and conversational skills were lacking. Number two, I want to know why you are so put out by his being friendly towards you. I mean since you were so kind to him, as you say, why should he suspect that you're not interested? Might you be sending him mixed messages? And I'm not saying you should be unkind. Just something is not right here. Going out twice with a guy isn't doing anything wrong. Plus I actually paid for the meals the 2nd time we went out, I offered, he accepted. I am not some rude bitch out to take advantage of anyone.
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