Racquel Colette Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I went out with a guy a couple times that I met on a set-up back in August. I wasn't at all attracted but I went out twice only because I had just moved recently and wouldn't hurt to have a new friend, right? Well, anyway, this guy got the wrong idea and when he wanted more, I said I 'just saw him as friend only.' He didn't want to see me after that and I was a-OK with that. Anyway, I joined a new gym and used it for the first time yesterday evening, and he walks up to me while I'm on the bench working my biceps, about 25 to 30 pounds thinner, fully with the attitude "Eat your heart out" as if I had made a big mistake now that he was "hot." Sorry, you were fug before, dude, now you are just a thinner more fit fug dude. Get over yourself. And get your teeth fixed, PLEASE. OK, vent over.
Krytie TV Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Wow. You sound like the one I got away. I hope he can get over his heartbreak... poor sod.
Author Racquel Colette Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 Oh, of course I was really polite but he still had the huge head and talked about himself for a full 10 minutes before I politely cut him off. In order to keep his head in check, I didn't comment on his weight loss. But you could tell he thought if he lost all this weight he could just get women easier and it doesn't work that way if you had an unattractive face and didn't bother with basic appearance factors (like getting those awful crooked teeth fixed so people can at least stand to look at you.) Talk about a guy looking WAY above his league. But I guess a guy can dream.
Tony T Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I went out with a guy a couple times that I met on a set-up back in August. I wasn't at all attracted but I went out twice only because I had just moved recently and wouldn't hurt to have a new friend, right? Well, anyway, this guy got the wrong idea and when he wanted more, I said I 'just saw him as friend only.' He didn't want to see me after that and I was a-OK with that. Anyway, I joined a new gym and used it for the first time yesterday evening, and he walks up to me while I'm on the bench working my biceps, about 25 to 30 pounds thinner, fully with the attitude "Eat your heart out" as if I had made a big mistake now that he was "hot." Sorry, you were fug before, dude, now you are just a thinner more fit fug dude. Get over yourself. And get your teeth fixed, PLEASE. OK, vent over. Would it have made any difference if he had approached you at the gym with a more mature, casual, friendly attitude? It seems he needs some time to grow up.
Art_Critic Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I'm guessing here.. but if him being thinner and in better shape bothered you enough to make a thread about it then I would think you not only noticed his Eat Your Heart Out Attitude but you also fell for it..
Florida Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 (edited) Oh, of course I was really polite but he still had the huge head and talked about himself for a full 10 minutes before I politely cut him off. In order to keep his head in check, I didn't comment on his weight loss. But you could tell he thought if he lost all this weight he could just get women easier and it doesn't work that way if you had an unattractive face and didn't bother with basic appearance factors (like getting those awful crooked teeth fixed so people can at least stand to look at you.) Talk about a guy looking WAY above his league. But I guess a guy can dream. Reading this I feel really bad for the guy, especially that he is misjudging you and exposing himself to your rejection even more. I think the post could have been funny too, but I wonder why you are so mad about it? It seems you are angry because you consider him *beneath* you, therefore it is an affront to your esteem that he dares to approach you seriously? Why the vitriol RC? Edited January 9, 2008 by Florida
Florida Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I think you are taking it personally that he feels he has a chance with you? Aww poor little guy like a little peacock with newly cleaned feathers, he just wants to preen a bit RC, no need to throw him on the hunting range for that crime...
ElvenPriestess Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I picture him seeing this thread and his heart breaking into tears. It's not his fault how he looks, and he took care of the weight to feel better about himself. The hot head thing was a new found confidence. Give the guy a break.
Florida Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I picture him seeing this thread and his heart breaking into tears. It's not his fault how he looks, and he took care of the weight to feel better about himself. Yes, my thoughts exactly. And effed up teeth aren't any reason to hate on someone (in fact quite a few Brits are quite handsome because of their crooked teeth-adds to their charm, IMHO) --no one deserves that.
BUENG1 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Is there a reason for this thread other than telling people on an anonymous message board how wonderful you are? I don't think anyone really cares.
shockandawed Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Oh, of course I was really polite but he still had the huge head and talked about himself for a full 10 minutes before I politely cut him off. Talk about a guy looking WAY above his league. But I guess a guy can dream. I am sure Mr Huge Head is ranting on message boards about people looking WAY above their league when talking to him. Yeah, you seem like a real dream.......................
crosswordfiend Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Is there a reason for this thread other than telling people on an anonymous message board how wonderful you are? I don't think anyone really cares. I think the OP was disturbed that the guy managed to generate such a response out of her, and the thread is her way of pushing him out of her consciousness.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 it just sounds like the guy had insecure issues with himself and he wanted you to see the new him! yea he was a little full of himself by his comment, but you didnt like him anyways. That just gave you another reason to add to the list of why you two cant be friends
fray718 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I picture him seeing this thread and his heart breaking into tears. It's not his fault how he looks, and he took care of the weight to feel better about himself. The hot head thing was a new found confidence. Give the guy a break. :lmao::lmao::lmao:
Author Racquel Colette Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 Would it have made any difference if he had approached you at the gym with a more mature, casual, friendly attitude? It seems he needs some time to grow up. Yes, he was definitely on a mission when he saw me, as if he had just been waiting for the moment when he ran into me (not that big of a city.) It would have been fine if he had been casual and friendly instead of 'hey, look at me, eat your heart out, you're lucky that I'm even talking to you right now' attitude. I was very polite when I explained back in Sept. that I didn't want to date, as always. He is just hurting from the rejection but if it inspired him to get in shape and lose the extra pounds, great, however, that doesn't mean it's going to make me attracted to him (which even if he WAS remotely attractive, I would not like him because of his personality (all "me" "me" "me") and if YOU actually try to get into the conversation, then he steers it back to "me" again.
Pyro Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I went out with a guy a couple times that I met on a set-up back in August. I wasn't at all attracted but I went out twice only because I had just moved recently and wouldn't hurt to have a new friend, right? Well, anyway, this guy got the wrong idea and when he wanted more, I said I 'just saw him as friend only.' He didn't want to see me after that and I was a-OK with that. Anyway, I joined a new gym and used it for the first time yesterday evening, and he walks up to me while I'm on the bench working my biceps, about 25 to 30 pounds thinner, fully with the attitude "Eat your heart out" as if I had made a big mistake now that he was "hot." Sorry, you were fug before, dude, now you are just a thinner more fit fug dude. Get over yourself. And get your teeth fixed, PLEASE. OK, vent over. Its just his way of not letting it get him down. His way of keeping his spirit and self esteem up about the situation.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 Hey if you dont want him another woman will. He probably really liked you and was hurt by the rejection that's all. If it wasnt for his teeth would you consider him boyfriend material why are you talking to him like he's garbage. Doesnt he have the right to feel good about himself? I mean you did reject him, He has self esteem and has feelings too.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 if a scorned woman had lost weight, gotten a great haircut and makeover, new clothes, etc, and she ran into a the man who had scorned her, she would probably do the same thing. if that man had reacted how you had, the woman would probably go home and cry into a bowl of broken dreams. (well, some women, anyway.) why should it be any different for a man? he's proud of himself. i think you just didn't like his attitude because you don't think he has the right to it, and he does. just because you didn't value him doesn't mean he shouldn't value himself...and that no one else will. sorry if this seemed harsh, but it wasn't any harsher than you were.
Mustang Sally Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I agree with Riddler. I can see why he acted that way, even if it is a tad sophomoric...bruised ego can hurt quite a bit. Sounds like even his personality didn't suit you? Well, then, just let it go at that, RC. Plenty of other fish in the sea.....
SYRACUSE03 Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 That guy is not the one at loss here.... I completely agree. At least he had the will and determination to make positive changes to better himself. He didn't do it for her, he did it for himself and it worked. Kudos to the self esteem boost.
Chrome Barracuda Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 RC was a bit of a hater. I think deep down inside she liked him and she's projecting that hatred of him in a different way. We often hate the one's which we are drawn to in that respect. lol. I wouldnt be surprised.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 i think either way, his intention may have been to get under her skin, and clearly, if so, it worked. good for him.
Touche Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 I agree with so many on here that there are too many of you to mention. The OP reminds me a bit of my sister. She's of this attitude" "How dare he even think we're in the same league? How can he even think to ask me out?" And we all know the rest of the story, don't we? Or maybe you don't. So I'll tell you: She's 45 and has never been married...no long-term relationships of any consequence. Yep, that's my sis. When I told her all about my new beau 13 years ago, (my H now) she wanted to know how I could POSSIBLY be serious about him since we had totally different tastes in food! :laugh:
SeraBella Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 i think either way, his intention may have been to get under her skin, and clearly, if so, it worked. good for him. yes, i agree.
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