Difficult Times Ahead (Pending Divorce)

[Sad_and_Confused]

Hi All -

 

Just wanted to meet some new friends. I'm a 30 year old guy who's about to be divorced to his wife and sort of wish I can meet some new people just to get away from my normal group of friends, who are really close to both of us. Actually, been a steady couple for about 5.5 years and married for about 1.5 years. She's the love of my life but after two infidelities, I don't think I can be with her anymore. It seemed we were destined for each other if everyone knew the entire story but our lives seem to be headed for a split now. Really sad about this whole thing so just wanted some comfort and a chance to vent. Our problem isn't about looks, money, or work, but rather communication. It seems that when we fight, she hates to argue but tends to get emotionally attached to someone else. I know this isn't normal and after repeated attempts to talk with her about it, possible counseling, and etc., I feel it's probably time to move on.

 

Sad in the Bay Area,

 

Curtis

[Trialbyfire]

I'm sorry to hear about this. Sometimes people can't change, because deep down inside of them, they don't believe there's anything wrong with them.

 

Your wife sounds like she needs the security of always having someone adore her. When you get angry with her, she finds someone else to stroke her fragile ego and lack of self-esteem.

 

Are you certain that she'll want to continue hanging around with your joint friends?

 

Btw, why aren't you angry about her affairs? You do know it's okay to be angry about it, don't you?

Edited January 9, 2008 by Trialbyfire

[Sad_and_Confused]

Of course I know it's alright to be angry. However, I love her so much and find it difficult to move ahead without her at this time. I figure it's better to give it a little time until my emotions doesn't play into this so much.

 

Curtis