Arturo08 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 So my ex girlfriend and I were together for over three years. We started dating at the beginning of my junior year and her freshman year of high school. The first two years of our relationship were incredible. We never fought, never had any conflict, we simply loved to spend every chance we could with each other. By the end of my junior year we had become best friends. We always hung out, sat together during free periods/lunch, I even took her to school every morning. That summer we went on lots of trips together, became really close to each others families, and exchanged our first "I love you's." It was incredible. We hung out everyday that summer and fell more and more in love. It was perfect. By the time my senior year rolled around, we became that one couple in high school that everyone talks about...the kind where everyone says "i wish i had that relationship, you guys are going to get married." It was great. Our relationship was perfect, our friendship was as well. Thats what made us so successful is that we were best friends. We had our own inside jokes, loved the same movies, restaurants, etc...Her house was my home away from home and vice versa..If my family ever went out of town, her mom would always invite me to stay with them so I wouldn't have to stay at my house alone. When her family would go out of town I would house-sit for them and watch their dogs. The trust was there completely and I saw that our relationship was going to the next level. We even started spending holidays with each other. I gave her a promise ring (that i spent a lot of money on) during my senior year. She said she loves me more than life itself and would never take it off, would marry me as soon as she could, and that she wanted to grow old together. I knew 100% that she was the one girl for me. Sure we were young, but this was so pure and real and nothing was going to mess us up, and then college happened. I went to a school 3 hours away. It was tough leaving her behind but i was so confident we would make it two years and then she could graduate and we could go to the same college. The day I left was heart wrenching. It hurt so bad leaving behind my best friend, the love of my life, but it was just 3 hours so we were able to see each other a lot. Things started getting really complicated almost instantly. While we spent her first two years of high school only with each other, she had kind of ditched her friends. When I left for school, she had no choice but to make new ones. She started a new life for herself (which I was thrilled about), but the closer she got to her new friends, the more distance that came between us...and being 3 hours away, we grew apart. I noticed the change, the distance that was growing, but I couldn't do anything. We talked about it, fought about it (our first real fights), but in the end she had to live her life and I had to live mine. We reached a breaking point after christmas break, and I knew I was going to loose her. I wasn't happy at my college so I applied to a nice liberal arts school in our city...That gave us both some hope and we ended up staying together all through the year. Summer arrived, I found out I got into the school in our city, and we both became very optimistic that we were going to make it. Summer was a shocker though. We were two different people than when I had left. It was only natural that would happen, I expected it to, but she refused to acknowledge it. We fought a lot, stopped having fun, and things went south quickly. I tried to fix it..We took a nice trip early in the summer, took another one 4th of july. We never really talked about our problems, but we both knew they were there. We made it though, and school started. This is when all hell broke loose. We just couldn't do it anymore. I was sick of pretending everything was okay, and she was sick of stressing about keeping us together, so I knew it was going to end. I brought up a break a few times, hoping we could take some time to figure things out. She refused every time, said she loves me and cant do that..Well, a month into this school year, she broke up with me. No break, just a straight up relationship ending. I was devestated. It was very tramatic, both of us fell apart while it happened. She walked out my door and that was it. We met up one night two weeks later, she told me she was sorry, she loved me, wanted to take things slow and get back together...the next day she left me again. She completely distanced herself from me, left me heartbroken. I panicked at first, acted desperate...I wasnt willing to let her slip away, not her, I loved her too much. I accepted it after a month, stopped putting the blame on her and accepted a lot of responsibility for why it ended. Since the breakup she has been doing the exact opposite of what she used to do. She is partying, from what I hear hooking up with other guys, and its sad to me. I know she is letting loose 3 years of her life she didnt experience, but its too hard for me to grasp. Her behavior is not what I know from her. She acts like she hates me..Like we had nothing special. Even though she told me every day as soon as she woke up and every night as soon as she got into bed "I love you so much, me and you forever and always." Even the day she broke up with me she said it. Well its been 4 months since we broke up, and I found out she is still coming to the college Im attending. What the hell is that about? I know she likes the school, but its going to mess up any and all progress I make towards being single and getting over her. How am I supposed to move on from this if in less than a year she will be passing me every single day at this tiny college I go to. I dont know what to do. Deep down I still love her and always will. I believe in soul mates and I know for a fact thats shes mine, but she has hurt me so badly and Im trying to move on. What can I do? Does anyone have any advice or a similiar story they could share? I love this girl, but I know she is enjoying herself, she has changed, and she dosent want me back ever from what I know...but how am I supposed to make progress with loosing her if she walks right back into my life for the next two years?
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