guydownsouth Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I've been really close to a girl for over a year. We talk all the time, and the only reason we're not in a relationship is because she moved and now we live too far apart. She always tells me she is in love with me, and I tell her the same. In the past few weeks, the girl has texted me everyday saying she loves me and that she wants to have sex with me, even often sending texts saying what she wanted to do sexually to me. Then suddenly, I find out she has a boyfriend yesterday. They could have been together for two weeks, or just since yesterday, I'm not sure which because she never told me. I found out from someone else. I sent her a text saying, "you have a boyfriend??" but no response. So she's a big hypocrite basically. Any advice on what I should do? I'm really mad at her and consider what she did a real nasty move for messing with my feelings. I want to send her a message telling her off and tell her I don't want to talk to her ever again. Is this a good idea? I have no problem doing it. What would I say in the message? I have an idea but don't want to be too rash.
oppath Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Do not do it by text!!!! An email is appropriate. Or an actual phone call. Just tell her "we seemed to be flirting heavily and I'm disappointed you would act that way while having a boyfriend. I like my friends to be honest with me. Obviously, it's not appropriate to keep talking like we have been, so I think it's best if we distance ourselves as it's not fair to him or me to continue."
tanbark813 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Any advice on what I should do? High road: Cut all contact with her and thank your lucky stars that you never got seriously involved with her. Low road: Find out the bf's number and forward him the texts.
oppath Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 High road: Cut all contact with her and thank your lucky stars that you never got seriously involved with her. Low road: Find out the bf's number and forward him the texts. Good advice. Looking back, I really wish I did follow through on my threat to tell my ex gf's ex about me since apparently she was still dating him while we were together. Instead I pussied up "I'm sorry, so sorry." Puhleeze. Dropping all contact is the way to go. But if she does contact you, just tell her "you have a bf, and you haven't been honest with me, so there's no point in us talking."
Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Dropping all contact is the way to go. But if she does contact you, just tell her "you have a bf, and you haven't been honest with me, so there's no point in us talking." I agree with this, since the OP didn't want to do anything too harsh.
Saxis Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 How reliable is the source of this information? The person that told you she has a boyfriend? Is it at all possible that she's been referring to YOU as her boyfriend, and the information hasn't been handed down clearly from the start? Just seems odd..... If it checks out that she is seeing someone else, the best advice has already been given.
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