Lucky555 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I just need some tips on how to get over a guy i had dated. I know i need to meet someone knew its like i am in a rut. I am sad because when i started seeing him it was only casually not leading to any where...and yet i found myself wanting him to "be with me" in which he would not commit. The fact is here i need to move on and my emotions are getting the best of me. My intention was not to fall for this person but i did and now I am left by myself to deal with myself. I have been meeting people and i am fine when i am out and about but sometimes he comes to my mind and i say wow its really like this, he really does not want to ever be with me and that hurts. Tips anyone. I am not contacting him. Maybe the best thing i can do is wait for time to heal whatever it is i am feeling.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Tips anyone. I am not contacting him. Maybe the best thing i can do is wait for time to heal whatever it is i am feeling. Hi lucky I am sorry for your pain. heres a hug \0/ i think the only thing that can really be done is the tip that you already suggested.. and that is wait for time to ease the pain
Author Lucky555 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 Thanks eye candy. I will do what i suggested and stay far far away from him.
Phateless Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I just need some tips on how to get over a guy i had dated. I know i need to meet someone knew its like i am in a rut. I am sad because when i started seeing him it was only casually not leading to any where...and yet i found myself wanting him to "be with me" in which he would not commit. The fact is here i need to move on and my emotions are getting the best of me. My intention was not to fall for this person but i did and now I am left by myself to deal with myself. I have been meeting people and i am fine when i am out and about but sometimes he comes to my mind and i say wow its really like this, he really does not want to ever be with me and that hurts. Tips anyone. I am not contacting him. Maybe the best thing i can do is wait for time to heal whatever it is i am feeling. It's all about distractions. Do anything you can to stay busy. I have: -gone running at midnight -taken apart my car/motorcycle/toaster (hey it was raining) -clean your house -rearrange furniture -go shopping -EXERCISE -anything with friends (but let someone else hold your phone lest you drunk-dial someone) -etc basically stay busy and do anything you can to stay away from the computer cuz you'll be too tempted to e-stalk him.
Author Lucky555 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 Thanks phateless. your post made me laugh. I am not tempted to e-stalk him haha, i am just sad over it because i know that i have to cut him completely off and let time dwell over this. I have actually blocked him so he can not contact me via aim. I talked to him last week and everything seemed fine between us as people...i can't define this relationship. However he assumes there is a we...and to me there is no we there is a he and I, i don't think he is being honest with himself. I think he uses a delusion of a we to not feel alone and have to meet other people. I know he cares but its not enough. Its been a good three months that i have given him. I don't think he wants to lose me as a friend but he is because its too much for me right now. By breaking this thing off i can be free again. I feel bad when he hears through other people that i go out and dance and hangout with guys because i know it upsets him. I can move on without having to worry about him being upset and i worry because i care. If i just cut him off its the HONEST thing to do here. This way he can see that there is no us and he can face reality and i can stop feeling horrible about this mess, its what i need. THANKS for the suggestions!
Phateless Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Thanks phateless. your post made me laugh. I am not tempted to e-stalk him haha, i am just sad over it because i know that i have to cut him completely off and let time dwell over this. I have actually blocked him so he can not contact me via aim. I talked to him last week and everything seemed fine between us as people...i can't define this relationship. However he assumes there is a we...and to me there is no we there is a he and I, i don't think he is being honest with himself. I think he uses a delusion of a we to not feel alone and have to meet other people. I know he cares but its not enough. Its been a good three months that i have given him. I don't think he wants to lose me as a friend but he is because its too much for me right now. By breaking this thing off i can be free again. I feel bad when he hears through other people that i go out and dance and hangout with guys because i know it upsets him. I can move on without having to worry about him being upset and i worry because i care. If i just cut him off its the HONEST thing to do here. This way he can see that there is no us and he can face reality and i can stop feeling horrible about this mess, its what i need. THANKS for the suggestions! lol welcome. glad i could help. yeah you've got exactly the right attitude. this guy doesn't know wtf he wants so you're better off without him. funny, i feel the same way as you today because it's my ex's b-day. i wanted to call her but i didn't. i even posted a thread about. it's around here somewhere. i'm gonna go see an old friend and have some wine instead. should be fun.
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