4givrnt4gtr Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Have you ever been freaked out by the feeling that you're falling in love with someone? Ive told guys i loved them before... the first time I KNEW i didnt mean it...ok maybe in the "i love you as a person" type of love. THe second time, it was more of a "i love you even though you're an ******* who keeps pulling and pushing me"...more like a victim sort of love. The third time, I wanted to love the guy...thank god i didnt. Now... Well i havent said it...but by god if it hasnt been thisclose to slip off my lips. The thought just pops up in my head at the most random times. If we;re watching tv and he's doing something in his computer, i look at him and the first thing that comes to my head is " I love you" Thing is....many times i feel like 'i love you and that sucks" sort of. Not because he doesnt (i dont know for sure as we havent said the actual words...but im pretty sure he's getting there). I just feel like, whenever i feel like that, its a step closer to, i guess, losing the tight control ive had over my emotions with this relationship. But god i cant help it! Its so weird! ive never felt like this, like...the most mundane things he might be doing, at the most random times, even dorky things he does. Ughh so frustrating... (see what i mean??) Has anyone ever experienced this? i guess...feeling like you're really falling for someone and not wanting to? (as y
Lee725 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Has anyone ever experienced this? i guess...feeling like you're really falling for someone and not wanting to? Is there a particular reason for not wanting to fall in love with him? From what you are describing, this sounds like the kind of love you are not going to be able to avoid, if you keep hanging out with him it will grow and grow untill one day you will say it . It is scary to say it when you really mean it because somehow the walls drop and you become vunerable.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 hm...i actually was trying to edit the message saying that i didnt know why i felt like i didnt want to feel it but i think you hit the nail right on the head.... It might be because this time i would actually mean it....and thats just very very scary thought to little ol' control freak me
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 i think if you're freaked out at the thought of falling in love, it probably means that the person/situation/circumstances are not right for you, or it just isn't the right time. that isn't what real love is supposed to feel like.
Author 4givrnt4gtr Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 the person/situation/circumstances are not right for you, . Hmm well the person...as i said, sigh...isnt the problem... But the situation might be....we've got this whole family issue thing...whether im accepted by his family or he by mine (we're different race/religion). So far im being slowly introduced to his family. He is Indian and expected to marry into the culture. Im hispanic...faaar from being Indian. In any case i met his brother recently...i havent heard any comments regarding his opinion of me. My mom seems to be accepting of the situation...my dad has no idea i have a bf much less an Indian bf. Sad part is that we're both old enough to not worry about that, but both our cultures are very strong regarding family ties and their opinions (i think more on his side than mine). In any case i guess this could be a reason why im so hesitant... and as to why i didnt think of it... ya... Any other ideas??
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Hmm well the person...as i said, sigh...isnt the problem... But the situation might be....we've got this whole family issue thing...whether im accepted by his family or he by mine (we're different race/religion). So far im being slowly introduced to his family. He is Indian and expected to marry into the culture. Im hispanic...faaar from being Indian. In any case i met his brother recently...i havent heard any comments regarding his opinion of me. My mom seems to be accepting of the situation...my dad has no idea i have a bf much less an Indian bf. Sad part is that we're both old enough to not worry about that, but both our cultures are very strong regarding family ties and their opinions (i think more on his side than mine). In any case i guess this could be a reason why im so hesitant... and as to why i didnt think of it... ya... Any other ideas?? i meant that the person/situation/circumstances might not be right for someone whether they realize it or not, hence the hesitation/scared/freaked out feelings where they should be love.
Lee725 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Wow, there are some differences there that could cause some problems. But love is love we cant control it nor deny it. If you are both old enough that the family issues can be "ignored", then you dont have much to loose. I know people dont want to hurt their families and some need the love and support of family in order to have a forfilling relationship (i hope that came out right), but this man just might be your one true love. Mountains and soldiers should not stand in the way of that. Deal with each obstacle as it comes, but i say let the walls down if that is what you really feel. It should be you and him alone and in love. Not everyone else controlling who you/him love. (i know that is easy for me to say because i dont have the cultural heritage that dictates that i marry a certain race / religion etc, but i do try hard to understand & respect that)
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