Green Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 I will offer to pay for lunch for both of us regardles of how things go. And not because I can afford it (and trust me I can) but rather because that is the sort of guy I am --MJ I realize you intend to offer paying for the meal whether you guys click or not, but I think it would be wise posistion to meet some one the first time for a coffee or something else that can end quick instead of a meal. and Melodymatters we'd make a great couple
johan Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Even better, you could have her stand out in front of the coffee shop while you drive past and wave.
Ariadne Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Ok, what else should I discuss via the email system at eharmony or do you think we are ready to start conversing by phone? What questions would you ask? If you have to ask that question, that means she's not your soulmate and you need to move on. Unless you want to date just because, or to get laid. Ariadne
Nemo Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Even better, you could have her stand out in front of the coffee shop while you drive past and wave. That sounds kind of dangerous. But I suppose it's not as bad as trying to moon out the window.
johan Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 This Mark guy is getting some pretty solid advice. I hope he takes some of it.
Green Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 you really could avoid a bad situation by just driving by her outside the coffee place if you didnt like what you saw
Nemo Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 you really could avoid a bad situation by just driving by her outside the coffee place if you didnt like what you saw Alpha always used to say that girls make up their mind in the first five minutes. It only stands to reason that guys would be quicker.
Green Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 Alpha always used to say that girls make up their mind in the first five minutes. It only stands to reason that guys would be quicker. wow I really like that line. Yeah we probably are. I can decide if I would sleep with a woman with out even seeing there face haha
Author MarkWA65 Posted January 11, 2008 Author Posted January 11, 2008 Wow you guys derailed the thread prety fast. Based on having alread seen each others photos, alot of emails, and a really nice phone conversation all that was left was to meet in person and see if we click. So even if we don't we can have a pleasant meal and go our own ways no harm done. --MJ
Author MarkWA65 Posted January 12, 2008 Author Posted January 12, 2008 OK... to start she showed up on time and alone ... I guess she really trusted me because meeting someone for the first time that you met online can be scary ... So we had lunch and talked for two hours ... probably would have kept going but she had to go pick up her sister from work ... She looks just like her pictures on eharmony, a bit over weight and average looks but with a definate cute factor. But I am not the kind of person that has a problem with looks or body shape... I found her to be really easy to talk to and when she smiled or laughed I could feel a definate connection. She said she had a good time and I asked if she would like to go to dinner some evening and continue the conversation she said she would like that. I asked her for her cell number and she gave it to me. She said she would email me this evening and I told here I would write back or call and we could discuss when she would like to go out again and she said that would be great... I guess we shall see where this goes. --MJ
SeraBella Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 I'm glad it went well, Mark. I read your other thread and I am glad you seem to have had some success. I hope things continue to go well Happy Friday!
bozwa Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 Good for you, sounds like a nice connection! I wish you allthe best!
Nemo Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 eHarmony rocks. I guess computers make it easy to find your soulmate.
bozwa Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 eHarmony rocks. I guess computers make it easy to find your soulmate. I was gonna try eHarmony until I found my bf on a FREE dating website. LOL The computer ROCKS for finding love. My personal opinion.
Green Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 OK... to start she showed up on time and alone ... I guess she really trusted me because meeting someone for the first time that you met online can be scary ... So we had lunch and talked for two hours ... probably would have kept going but she had to go pick up her sister from work ... She looks just like her pictures on eharmony, a bit over weight and average looks but with a definate cute factor. But I am not the kind of person that has a problem with looks or body shape... I found her to be really easy to talk to and when she smiled or laughed I could feel a definate connection. She said she had a good time and I asked if she would like to go to dinner some evening and continue the conversation she said she would like that. I asked her for her cell number and she gave it to me. She said she would email me this evening and I told here I would write back or call and we could discuss when she would like to go out again and she said that would be great... I guess we shall see where this goes. --MJ well I'm glad your into her and that you believe she is into you also.
Nemo Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 I was gonna try eHarmony until I found my bf on a FREE dating website. LOL The computer ROCKS for finding love. My personal opinion. You certainly did find yourself a cheap boyfriend. Congratulations!
bozwa Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 You certainly did find yourself a cheap boyfriend. Congratulations! :p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p:p
Author MarkWA65 Posted January 13, 2008 Author Posted January 13, 2008 So we chatted on the phone for a bit today and were going to dinner Wed evening. I'll be sure and let ya know how that goes. --MJ
Sweetcheripie Posted January 13, 2008 Posted January 13, 2008 Great job! I am excited to hear how this goes. You sound like such a great guy and have a lot to offer.
compassion42 Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 I have been following your thread and just wanted to say that I'm glad this is turning out so well for you! Hope it continues to be smooth sailing with this girl.
desertguy Posted January 14, 2008 Posted January 14, 2008 Mark, I've been away for a while, (dealing with my personal breakup backscatter, it happens, sh*t happens, that's life, dude, we all have our problems, but I digress), you're trying lot's of things (which I *REALLY* applaud you for), but it seems to me you're sweating the details too much again, maybe trying to go too fast, maybe? It's understandable. Sure, pay for the lunch, be a gentleman, but realize it's JUST LUNCH, it's a feeling out process, that's all, realize it for what it is. I know you're trying to make up for lost time and all, but there's no shortcuts in this, unfortunately. I've seen you here on various threads, you're trying to get out there, improve yourself (been there, done that, got the friggen T-shirt to prove it ), but if you really want things to work in the long term (for YOU, not for who you happen to have a date with at the moment), try to go into it with a "let's see", non detached fun, (if you can, anyway, attitude) Put your best foot forward (but not a false one), and try not to take it too seriously at first. You've already proven through your past actions, that you have your sh*t together, go with it, man!
Author MarkWA65 Posted January 14, 2008 Author Posted January 14, 2008 but if you really want things to work in the long term (for YOU, not for who you happen to have a date with at the moment), try to go into it with a "let's see", non detached funI totally agree. --MJ
Author MarkWA65 Posted January 17, 2008 Author Posted January 17, 2008 For those that are interested ... I just got home from our date and I had a real good time. We talked about going out again sometime next week. Now I just need to call her and see when she is available. --M
Author MarkWA65 Posted January 19, 2008 Author Posted January 19, 2008 Well... I got the "your a nice guy, but" phone call today ... I thought things went well on the two dates we had but I guess this one wasn't meant to be... Back to sifting thru eHarmony profiles ... --MJ
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