Phateless Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 We broke up oct 06, have barely spoken in a year. I don't think there's any bad blood really, but there's no contact, at my decision. I'm thinking about calling to wish her a happy birthday but I kinda know I shouldn't. I hang out with her old best friend all the time, who's b-day is in a week. The girl I hang out with is having a b-day party soon and I'm worried my ex might be there. My ex didn't wish me a happy b-day just recently in dec, but then i didn't wish her one last year either. She did wish me a happy b-day right after we broke up, but I don't think that really counts. I didn't want to break NC to wish her a happy b-day only a few months after we broke up. Thoughts?
CaliGuy Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 We broke up oct 06, have barely spoken in a year. I don't think there's any bad blood really, but there's no contact, at my decision. I'm thinking about calling to wish her a happy birthday but I kinda know I shouldn't. I hang out with her old best friend all the time, who's b-day is in a week. The girl I hang out with is having a b-day party soon and I'm worried my ex might be there. My ex didn't wish me a happy b-day just recently in dec, but then i didn't wish her one last year either. She did wish me a happy b-day right after we broke up, but I don't think that really counts. I didn't want to break NC to wish her a happy b-day only a few months after we broke up. Thoughts? It's been a long time. Why pump up her self-esteem and destroy yours in the process by contacting her? No good can come of this. Move on with your life as she has done with hers. Thoughts of her, any thoughts, are roadblocks to you meeting Ms. Right.
a4a Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Bad idea...... don't do it. For various reasons I am just too lazy to type.
Author Phateless Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Thanks guys. I know you're right, but it's hard anyway. I still think about her... not sure if I miss her, but I still think about her. 5 years is a long time to just forget. I have to wonder if she really is as over it as she would have everyone believe?
Pyro Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 We broke up oct 06, have barely spoken in a year. I don't think there's any bad blood really, but there's no contact, at my decision. I'm thinking about calling to wish her a happy birthday but I kinda know I shouldn't. I hang out with her old best friend all the time, who's b-day is in a week. The girl I hang out with is having a b-day party soon and I'm worried my ex might be there. My ex didn't wish me a happy b-day just recently in dec, but then i didn't wish her one last year either. She did wish me a happy b-day right after we broke up, but I don't think that really counts. I didn't want to break NC to wish her a happy b-day only a few months after we broke up. Thoughts? Just let it be. You didn't wish her a Happy B-day, so she took it as you are over her and you have moved on and she did the same thing by not wishing you a happy Bday.
Trialbyfire Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Phateless, you know the old saying of an ex is an ex for a reason. Don't open old wounds by calling her. You've done so well for over a year now and with any contact, you can undo that year+. Stick to NC.
Author Phateless Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Phateless, you know the old saying of an ex is an ex for a reason. Don't open old wounds by calling her. You've done so well for over a year now and with any contact, you can undo that year+. Stick to NC. Thanks TBF, I always trust your guidance.
oppath Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Phateless, you know the old saying of an ex is an ex for a reason. Don't open old wounds by calling her. You've done so well for over a year now and with any contact, you can undo that year+. Stick to NC. Contacting would make you vulnerable. What if she didn't answer or call back? Sometimes, people can remain friendly but often even if it is amicable, after a serious relationship it is best to walk away. Try to think of it this way...what could be gained by calling her? I don't see much. What could be lost? Probably not a lot either, but with emotions, you never quite know if you'll bleed if you pick off the scab.
KenzieAbsolutely Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Phateless, you know the old saying of an ex is an ex for a reason. Don't open old wounds by calling her. You've done so well for over a year now and with any contact, you can undo that year+. Stick to NC. i agree. i never understood why holidays/birthdays are seen as open season for contacting people who aren't in your life anymore. if an ex contacted me out of the blue on a day that mattered to me for any reason, i would pretty po'd, or annoyed at best. even if i didn't hate my ex, i would be thinking "leave me alone, get over it."
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