thekid55 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 My ex and I were together for about 2 years during high school. I graduated in June and am currently in college. So, I am a freshman in college. She is a junior in high school. When we were together, everything seemed perfect. Everything we did was a lot of fun. She would always promise me that she only wanted me. We promised forever and all things of that nature. Totally head over heels for each other. I can honestly say that we were in love with each other. As much as you could be in high school anyway. In October, she decided to end the relationship. She said that she just wanted to experience high school. The reasoning was fine. The aftermath is what bothers me. She has provided a lot of false hope to me since we have been apart. She has told me that she would come visit me at school..never happened. She wanted to go to NYC one weekend with me..never happened. We had plans to get together during Thanksgiving and my current Christmas break. She hasn't followed through with them. She hasn't even been able to sit down and talk with me. I guess you can call it immaturity. She has a new boyfriend now. He is ugly as mud, big pothead apparently, and doesn't even go to the same high school. I really don't think she cares that much about him. She has said that she just "has him wrapped around her finger". So basically, this sweet, loving, innocent girl that I knew when we dated is gone. All she wants to do now is go out and party. She says she goes to all of these parties and sneaks out of the house at night. I really don't know if she does or not, but I'm not really a big partier. I know that most people go through that high school party phase. I didn't go through it because I just never got caught up in that stuff because I had her and my sports that kept me busy. She has told me that she doesn't want anything serious, the distance is too hard for her (I'm 2 hours away from home), and she just wants to move on. I'm having difficulty accepting this. To a degree, I think it's her rebellious side talking. However, when we were together, we only really hung out together. Never really hung out with our friends. I have said to her that, that was something we need to talk about. The longest I've gone NC for was about 2 weeks, until I broke it and responded to one of her texts. My question: She seems to be rebelling. I know that nothing will happen in the immediate future. She was such a special person, but she has drastically changed. Do I have any hope for this phase to end and for us to potentially reconcile? What do you think?
terrus peeck Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 ouch man. She may get over the phase but still not want you. Only time will tell I guess. I know she was a great person when you were together, but as you said, shes really changed, and sounds like shes wild now. Id still try and talk to her and wait to see if she comes out of it and if she does, will she want you back? I do not know my friend, but its up to you. Wait and see or move on and maybe down the line you can get back together if you find yourself single and shes out of her phase and still wants you. Best of luck though.
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