Phateless Posted January 11, 2008 Posted January 11, 2008 It's day two. I haven't checked up on her at all yesterday and today I almost did, but I didn't. This is so hard but I'm trying. I really really want to know whats going on in her life. IT DOESN'T MATTER. You should be worrying about what's going on in YOUR OWN LIFE! Keep her out of your head completely if you're trying to move on. If you're trying to get back together, back off for a while and do something positive for yourself so that when she sees you again she'll want to be a part of all the great things you're doing. You have to have things going for you in your life besides a woman.
Ronni_W Posted January 12, 2008 Posted January 12, 2008 It's day two. I haven't checked up on her at all yesterday and today I almost did, but I didn't. This is so hard but I'm trying. I really really want to know whats going on in her life. Good job! I hope you made it all the way through Days 2 and 3, as well. Phateless is 100% right -- what is going on in her life is irrelevant to you. Assume that she does not ever think about you. Assume that her life is going great. Know and accept that she does not want or need you in her life. Focus ONLY on your own life, and what you need to do to get past your obsessive and destructive behaviour. You mentioned you're attending AA -- have you considered Gamblers' Anonymous, being as yours is a process addiction and not a substance abuse issue. (I'm not sure how different the actual programs are, though.) Stay on track! You have people here who care about your progress, and who want to support you in achieving your goal of permanently stopping this obsessive and destructive behaviour. Good luck.
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