DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 If a ex says he feels guilty about having sex with you because he didn't want you to feel guilty how would you feel about that????
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 As in he didn't want you to feel obliged? Is that what you mean?
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 As in he didn't want you to feel obliged? Is that what you mean? I mean like why would he feel guilty if that wasn't his intentions to make me think that?? I mean would you say that it was all he wanted?? Why would he feel guilty??
CaliGuy Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 If a ex says he feels guilty about having sex with you because he didn't want you to feel guilty how would you feel about that???? He's feeling bad because he know he used you. That's what it says to me.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 He's feeling bad because he know he used you. That's what it says to me. I have to agree with this. He's the one feeling guilty here, or else it would not have been brought up. Him mentioning not wanting you to feel guilty is an admission of his own guilt. If his intentions were good he would not have mentioned it. I've heard of men asking women if they were ok with what happened, are there any regrets, out of concern for their feelings, as sex is so deep and personal. But guilt? No. I don't like it.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 He's feeling bad because he know he used you. That's what it says to me. I knew it! I just wanted make sure I was tripping here...
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 I have to agree with this. He's the one feeling guilty here, or else it would not have been brought up. Him mentioning not wanting you to feel guilty is an admission of his own guilt. If his intentions were good he would not have mentioned it. I've heard of men asking women if they were ok with what happened, are there any regrets, out of concern for their feelings, as sex is so deep and personal. But guilt? No. I don't like it. That what I said too..why would you feel guilty if you weren't trying to do that?
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Man I so knew it! His excat word were 'I feel guilty for having sex with you because I don't want you to think that was all I wanted from you." When he said that I threw me off! Because why would you say that if you weren't trying to use me for sex??
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Man I so knew it! His excat word were 'I feel guilty for having sex with you because I don't want you to think that was all I wanted from you." When he said that I threw me off! Because why would you say that if you weren't trying to use me for sex?? That's aweful! That's like getting ready to have an orgasm and farting instead and not finishing because they stop out of being grossed out by it. Ok, maybe not quite like that, but still. Buzz kill! He sucks, time to move on to greener pastures and brighter suns hun!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 That's aweful! That's like getting ready to have an orgasm and farting instead and not finishing because they stop out of being grossed out by it. Ok, maybe not quite like that, but still. Buzz kill! He sucks, time to move on to greener pastures and brighter suns hun! Lol thanks!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Why would he feel guilty for having sex with me if that wasn't all he wanted from me?? If that wasn't the case then he shouldn't feel guilty right??
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Why would he feel guilty for having sex with me if that wasn't all he wanted from me?? If that wasn't the case then he shouldn't feel guilty right?? Exactly. Which is why it's an admission of guilty thoughts. And I will go beat him up for you should you like;) kidding! But if you really want......
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Exactly. Which is why it's an admission of guilty thoughts. And I will go beat him up for you should you like;) kidding! But if you really want...... Lol I would actually help you beat him up! Okay I just wanted to make sure I wasn't trippin here thinkng that he was just looking out for me and that he cared by saying that..
Star Gazer Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Sounds like he used you in retrospect. He didn't intend for it to be just about sex, but after the deed was done and the lights were turned back on, he realized that's all it was. He feels bad because his intentions weren't the same as how things ended up. That's my take, anyway.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Others I have talked to about this they are saying he didn't use me that he cared enough to let me know he felt guilty about it and that he didn't want me to think that...
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Others I have talked to about this they are saying he didn't use me that he cared enough to let me know he felt guilty about it and that he didn't want me to think that... He should have thought about this before hand!
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 He should have thought about this before hand! Meaning he should have thought about this before we had sex??
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Meaning he should have thought about this before we had sex?? Yes, meaning think about what he was doing, think about you, and your feelings. You see what I'm saying?
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Yes, meaning think about what he was doing, think about you, and your feelings. You see what I'm saying? Yes I do...thanks...
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Yes I do...thanks... Anytime:-) You deserve a man who will make love to you then afterwards cuddle you and tell you how wonderful you are. Nothing less. And I won't take no for an answer.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Anytime:-) You deserve a man who will make love to you then afterwards cuddle you and tell you how wonderful you are. Nothing less. And I won't take no for an answer. lol ok your right!
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 lol ok your right! Of course I am love. Now you should come join us in the water cooler section so you can laugh today:-)
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Of course I am love. Now you should come join us in the water cooler section so you can laugh today:-) Alright! Will do!
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