jdeedee Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Its so hard to put all your energy into a letter and get no response whatsoever. I messed up and I know that, I admitted it when I sent the email. It hurts that she would just read it and ignore all my good intentions. Would a small reply have been that tough for her? I'm almost angry at this. I mean, really I actually am angry. How could it be so difficult to even say a single word in response. I'm not just angry at this ex but all the exes I've ever made that attempt to reconcile with and gotten no response. Don't they know how much it hurts to just ignore someone?
PinkRibbon Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 That is the point of a break up. Not to see or have to deal with the other person. I am sorry she is ignoring your letter but then again maybe she doesn't know what to say in response? Maybe she needs time to compose herself to reply. Just give it some time.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I know it hurts to be ignored, but it is often the case that the ex isn't responding because they want no contact as they are hurting and the only way they can heal is to be cut off from you.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Why am I so selfish? You're not selfish. You're human and you have a heart. And we as humans don' always cope with the stronger extreme emotions, be that the happy or the sad ones.
Ronni_W Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 It hurts that she would just read it and ignore all my good intentions. It is horrible to be treated as if we somehow have ceased to exist but, as EP says, sometimes that is what the other person needs to do for themselves. In terms of her ignoring your "good intentions", are you sure she even read your email? She really isn't obligated to do anything with or about your intentions so she may have deleted it unopened...if she feels that N/C is best for her, that is quite possible. It's tough but it's also about HER getting over you and moving on. The part that isn't allowing for that is coming from a more self-focused perspective.
CaliGuy Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Its so hard to put all your energy into a letter and get no response whatsoever. I messed up and I know that, I admitted it when I sent the email. It hurts that she would just read it and ignore all my good intentions. Would a small reply have been that tough for her? I'm almost angry at this. I mean, really I actually am angry. How could it be so difficult to even say a single word in response. I'm not just angry at this ex but all the exes I've ever made that attempt to reconcile with and gotten no response. Don't they know how much it hurts to just ignore someone? Your happiness is relying on her. That's a really bad position to be in. This is why I don't recommend contact with an ex. It will most certainly get your hopes up and keep you in a position to be miserable for a long time. Seek happiness within, then it won't matter if she responds to the letter or not. You don't need her to be happy, you just think you do.
sedgwick Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Are you certain she hasn't blocked you? I blocked my ex.
Author jdeedee Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 Are you certain she hasn't blocked you? I blocked my ex. We emailed on the 13th-ish when I needed to know if she wanted to meet up for her christmas gift. She replied then. I contacted her again on the 29th. I never got a bounce back. I am pretty sure she got the letter.
s_n_d Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I know ive told someone on LS this before but Im going to say it again.. One of my bestfriends told me this.. "Dont expect anything from Ryan(my ex)..No replies to texts, phone calls and emails. Expect nothing from him so you wont be disappointed." And it worked for me. But there are days when I do get disappointed that he doesnt text message back sometimes.
Lishy Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 This is what I do not understand If someone ends it with you and you realise your mistakes so you write to tell them how sorry you are, why do you expect a reply? You treated that person badly or they would not have ended it! (in the case of a sorry letter being sent I am assuming that you are to blame) How you can hurt someone to the point of them ending it and just expect a reply when you write to say sorry? You would not be in that position if you had treated that person right in the first place! So here is the lesson for the day - Treat your partner right and appreciate what you have. Listen when he/she speaks to you about problems and then maybe you wont be in that position of having to write 'sorry' emails/letters.
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 10, 2008 Posted January 10, 2008 jdeedee your ex is proberbly not responding because whats done is done, they are proberbly in nc with you, when you send your ex an email NEVER expect a reply back. My ex emailed me a few times and I never replied back because he dumped me, hurt me, so I went in nc to help my heart heal, I read the emails but never replied to them, I carried on with my life, moved on. Don't be angry at your ex for not replying to your email, they are only doing what feels right for them.
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