For those of you who left after the A

[Confused9]

I was wondering why you decided to leave. Was it just too hard to fix the relationship? Where you in love with the OW/OM? How long was the A? Did you realize after the fact that it was a mistake to leave? How did you treat BS???

 

Did you try to fight for the relationship? Did BS make you leave?

 

Any feedback is MUCH appreciated!

[Confused9]

Anyone????

[simplegirl]

When my now xH had his A he moved out almost immediately after starting it. His OW also kicked her husband out at the same time and moved mine right in. It was supposed to me a secret but we all knew each other so it didn't stay secret long. I knew as soon as he told me he was moving out, my gut told me. Then her H called and said she kicked him out and I told him what I thought. It was a few days but it all came to light. That lasted about 10 days and he came back home, not to work things out but because he missed the kids. He was still seeing her, we weren't together, the marriage was over but I fought and won. He went NC and her and her husband got back together too. We eventually divorced 4 years later though for other reasons. We probably could have saved our marriage that time too but the minute I told him I wanted him to move out for a while they started talking again and I wasn't playing those games anymore. At that point I made up my mind I was really done. They lasted 2 months that time. The whole time he wanted to come back but I refused. When they split up I was considering working things out (we have 4 kids and a lot of years) but found out he was dating someone else already. Even though he wanted me back he was with someone else and I just didn't have it in me. They married 6 weeks after our divorce was final (7 months after he moved out) and they have been miserable for 3 years now. He still says our D is his biggest regret.

[Confused9]

Mine will never come back but I am glad you got a second chance!