Dynamo Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Okay, so the other night I had an outing with some friends, and this girl who I invited to tag along with us - I've been flirting with her a lot, I've really been sending the message that I liked her, and as far as I could tell she was returning the message: thumbs up! So we all meet up, decide to go to a casual local resteraunt together then walk to the mall close by and hang out there for awhile. The meal goes good, we're all having fun, laughing, cracking jokes, etc. I thought things were going pretty good with her and me. When the bill came, she had forgotten her cash at home (We all got separate bills for our meals), but I was more then willing to pay for her (I had intended to do so all along, lol). She was really happy and greatful about it, all was good. We're hanging out at the local mall and I'm off goofing around with one of my guy friends in on of the stores, and two of the girls (the girl I liked and a friend) were hanging out inside the store. They were talking and the girl I liked said something like "You just can't not like (my name). He's so sweet. :)" Made me happy. At the end of the day I thought things went really well, it wasn't really a formal date but rather just a hang out. I dropped her off at her place, we hugged, she left. The next day when I saw her she had cash and demanded that I take it since I paid for her the other night, and I really didn't want to - I had done it to be nice. but she insisted, despite me saying "It wasn't a big deal.:laugh:" For some reason this is getting me down, it's like she didn't WANT me to pay for her, she only took it because it was the only option. It almost feels like rejection, in a way. Am I just being really weird? I really like her, but I'm starting to get really mixed messages from her. Frankly I dunno what to do. Another thing: I'll be hanging out with her and her friends, and she'll start talking about something (like telling a story about something that happened at work or in class or whatever), and say her friends start going off into their own side conversation. She normally stops talking then, but I tell her to continue and that I'm interested and whatever, and I listen attentively. For some reason that always makes her smile really big, why is that?
Lucky555 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Chill out. you got all positive signs. I do not like when the guy pays i like to be independent and I don't want to feel like i owe him anything. I pay my own way. I don't like relationships having to be about money and all. So you did not get rejected Go with the flow hope it works out
Author Dynamo Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Chill out. you got all positive signs. I do not like when the guy pays i like to be independent and I don't want to feel like i owe him anything. I pay my own way. I don't like relationships having to be about money and all. So you did not get rejected Go with the flow hope it works out Thanks. I had a feeling I was just being paranoid for some reason.. =/
Florida Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Maybe she read the threads about how guys hate money grubbing golddigger's, so she was trying to show you she wasn't!
Author Dynamo Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Maybe she read the threads about how guys hate money grubbing golddigger's, so she was trying to show you she wasn't! Well, you never know! Maybe now she'll see this thread, and then stop seeing me because I seem too paranoid all the time, LOL.
Green Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Yeah thats a scary thought some one we know seeing these threads. You should have been like "lets go get a bite to eat and I'll let you pay for me"
Author Dynamo Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 Yeah thats a scary thought some one we know seeing these threads. You should have been like "lets go get a bite to eat and I'll let you pay for me" Come to think of it, that'd have been a damn good thing to say - would have given us some good 1on1 time. Jeesh, I need to carry a laptop with me so I can access LS "in the field", haha.
Green Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 next time you see her you could playfully say something like " My egos still a little bruised that you felt you had to pay me back for dinner, how about we play a game, if I can guess your favorite (movie/beer/color/number/whatever) you take me out for a drink on you, If my psychic abilities steer me wrong drinks on me"
Lucasarts Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 you're over analyzing and i actually like when a girl pays me back for a meal i paid for (it shows that she isn't dependent on me) besides you should make a move on her if u really like her...what are u waiting for? she seems very into you and if she smiles at you then yes i say go FOR IT so dont worry about her paying for a meal that you covered her for. I'd be more worried if she didnt pay u back
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