Santiago 17 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I am gonna use generic terms b/c it is a touchy situation Ok so I am a a "boss" in "training" at this "company". I will train for six months under a mentor (I have five months left). I really like my job and after training I will be relocated somewhere else in the state to be a "boss". I didn't want to get involved with anyone at my work and I turned down some people b/c I didn't want to "go there". My "mentor" even suggested that I should talk to a certain employee b/c "she is not married and cute wink wink" her words (this girl is older and more educated). I am 24 and this 20 year old who I am sooo attracted to asked for my number. I gave it to her. We talked on the phone and then went out on New Years Day. We haven't been apart since and we finish eachother's sentences and I am sooo happy and so is she. Today at work my "mentor" is helping me with a project more than usual and then throws out there that "speaking of random b/c it came up I heard that this girls ex was so sad b/c some guy from our company is dating his girlfriend and inclined that I stole her" I said well actaully we have hung out and I do like her. I didn't think anything was wrong b/c there are people married where I work and some are high up too!!! She said well its not a good idea. I was so shocked. My heart dropped to the ground. Nobody has made me feel like this girl does. This girl was working and I couldn't tell her b/c she would lose it. She read my face though and knew something was up. I can't lie to her. There are so many jealous people there and I know something is going on....... This girl and I are nice people and we work hard and mind our own business and this is total bull****. If we keep it totally cool then why does it matter? I told my boss/mentor that she might quit and she said she will (she doesn't get paid a lot) I will make a decent salary when I get done and already make decent money now. It is totally a cinderella story in my eyes. I could tell a lot of girls there liked me b/c all of a sudden I am around and they all start wearing make-up and do whatever to work around me. I mean I am 24 and in a whole new city what did they expect me to do? I mean there is a new (regional corporate person) "My mentor's boss" and she is crackin down on nepotism (hiring of relatives) but there are so many other situations and I really do not have any authority. I don't know what to do? Help!!!!!!!
Lucasarts Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 ok who cares what others at your job think about your relationship if she makes u happy stay with her, even if she quits, it doesnt mean you should add to the troubles and break up with her because of the job. U said you're going to be well off (getting paid decently) so if push comes to shove you can help her financially (tho that is another complicated issue). Just because your mentor told u to break up with her doesnt mean you have to listen (this mentor is a female right? and why is she (or he) telling you to go out with certain people anyway? Seems like shes trying to break u up and set you up with her friends or something) It's your personal life and its not your fault that your new girl's ex is sad cause you "stole" her (since when does a girl asking for a guys number make the guy the theif? always was curious about that) anywho, dont let work interfere with your happiness, if you truly want to be with this girl, then be with her and forget everyone else.
Author Santiago 17 Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 I agree but after some thinking it has created problems at work already b/c people become jealous and they complain and it is in the corporate policy but it is kinda a grey area since I am training. We are just gonna chill for a second and take it slow. We were being dumb and not flaunting it but not hiding it so whatever. It might be a good thing b/c now she is gonna look to pursue her degree and we will be forced to take it slow. I just hope she can control herself though. She is very innocent and trusting and doesn't realize that the other girls at work. Man I kinda like it b/c having to control myself and not be affectionate makes my fellings soooo much stronger!!! I just have a connection with her like never before and I think as you grow older and get lost in your career, material posessions, and success (my mentor) you lose sight of what is important and that is what I don't wanna do.
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