marriedandsad Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 My husband of 3 years and I are separating. We have a 2 year old little boy whom is the light of our lives.....Our son and I will be moving out at the end of the month if all goes well. How do I cope with is? He is still saying I love you and wanting a response. I DO love him, but I am not IN love with my husband....I think he thinks this will be like every other time we've discussed it, but this time it's going to happen. I am trying to get a full-time job and an apartment, but money is a HUGE problem. I am a SAHM. Plus daycare will be an issue since the place I may be getting a position is a 2nd shift position...so from like 2-10pm.....yucky. This is the board I made yesterday when I was facing this decision: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t140672/ Does anyone have any tips? I have no clue if we need to get attorneys involved now or later. I'm honestly clueless...especially when it comes to custody of our son. We agreed I would have primary custody...but I want it in writing just in case his side decides to try and get him to challenge me in court. And why does this hurt so much? Should it hurt like this???
Kasan Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 (edited) Oh my dear what a mess! NH has good legal aid, the fee is based on income, but I wonder if this is the situation that you should be pursing right now. You seem to be drinking way to much right now and I am very concerned about your attempted suicide attempt which was recently and factor in an EA and I am surprised that your head isn't spinning like a top. You need to take a time out from your "friend" and get yourself straightened out, while you still have insurance. Quite frankly, both of you need IC, if he is trying to smother you with a pillow. Both of you are so angry and resentful at each other, and I don't want to be overly critical here, but what would you say, to a friend if she was living like this? What advice would you give her? Please pull it together for the sake of your son. Edited January 7, 2008 by Kasan
Author marriedandsad Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 (edited) Oh my dear what a mess! NH has good legal aid, the fee is based on income, but I wonder if this is the situation that you should be pursing right now. You seem to be drinking way to much right now and I am very concerned about your attempted suicide attempt which was recently and factor in an EA and I am surprised that your head isn't spinning like a top. You need to take a time out from your "friend" and get yourself straightened out, while you still have insurance. Quite frankly, both of you need IC, if he is trying to smother you with a pillow. Both of you are so angry and resentful at each other, and I don't want to be overly critical here, but what would you say, to a friend if she was living like this? What advice would you give her? Please pull it together for the sake of your son. This is why we're separating....we are NOT Healthy for each other....we seem to bring out the worst. And no he didn't try to smother me with a pillow for pete's sake...he HIT me with a pillow. If he tried to smother me he would've held it down over my face so I couldn't breathe. And yes I am trying to pull it together for my son. Everything I am doing right now is for him....not the drinking obviously. But the taking a break and getting us a separate apartment. We have to. My marriage has been in a downward spiral for a very long time. The people we've told have said "what hell took you guys so long". Right now my husband is acting like everything is okay...and it's not all okay. He's still calling me honey and sweetie....saying "I love you"...trying to be lovey dovey. It's NOT all okay....I don't think he's taking me seriously....which is why I am wondering if I should get an attorney involved now or later. My suicide attempt was 3 years ago this month...not recent. Edited January 7, 2008 by marriedandsad Forgot one tidbit
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