mancunian Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Struggling to sleep/cope with stress I have posted a long story on here before and was grateful for the feedback. I am at the point where I have been doing nearly all the running and chasing in a 3 month relationship with a large age difference (39 and 23) and long distance of 200 miles. OK so maybe the man has to do a lot of the chasing in the beginning but I now definitely need to ease off and give her the space and time to see if she chases me a little so I know that she really likes me and so it bacomes a more equal two way relationship. However, the strain of waiting and playing it cool is huge to the point I am stressed and losing sleep. I feel very insecure in this relationship and I need some resassurance and feedback to help me feel happier. I have told her this but the waiting for her to contact me is wearing me down. I sense the realtionship is near the end and I am tempted to call her and end it now as I have had so little emotion and affection from her. We have not slept together either (less important) I am convinced that all will be resolved with 7 days but would appreciate how I can tough it out and not call her and get some sleep! It should be noted that she has been having nightmares/ sleepless nights and she will not tell me what is bothering her and so my imagination is going wild! She said she will tell me in her own time but I am having too much stress about it. Maybe she has suffered some trauma? I have opened my heart to her but she will not confide in me. All the signs are that she does not care that much for me but I keep giving her the benefit of the doubt because there may be a genuine trauma which has upset her. I dont think I can go another 3 days without sleeping properly as I have to work. But if I give in and call her I will never know if she would have called me or chased me. I dont normally feel this insecure in a realtionship. Advice please!
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