dakid Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 ok my ex and i had a real bad break-up. i hurt her with some real mean words over jealousy. then i tried to get back with her but she rejected me and even hit me. so we had no contact for 5 years. till i seen her on the net recently and i discided to forgive her and talk to her. well, after a couple of messages i poured my heart to her about how much she hurt me and how much i did for her. i think i made her sad or uncomtable and scared her away or something because she doesn't barely message me back. but she did send me a christmas card and say marry christmas to me. i'm confused, i don't know if she is just playing games with me or she is hurt by what i said to her. i don't know. all i wanted to do was be good friends and i think i messed up by coming on too strong.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 After 5 years? Why did you suddenly message her again, and over things that were so long ago? If it comes back up after all this time it's just digging up hurt that should have been dust. That's not really fair to do to her is it?
Author dakid Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 well i really cared for her then. and it toke me a long time to get over it. i felt like i was still bottling it up and i just let it out, not realizing what the after effect might be. i know i screwed up by bringing up our past. that is why i apologized like 3 times but i get no replies. i'm such a idiot:o
ElvenPriestess Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Wel of course bottling up isn't good either, I recommend talking about those bottled feelings to a close friend, get it all out. The main reason to not have her be that one you let lit out on is that she was of course the other person involved. There's always us on LS should you need to aleviate those thoughts and feelings you need to release.
Ronni_W Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 ...because she doesn't barely message me back. but she did send me a christmas card and say marry christmas to me. i'm confused, i don't know if she is just playing games with me I would not put any meaning into the seasonal greetings -- some people do that out of habit or to help get themselves in the Christmas 'spirit'. Nor would I say that she's "playing games". It doesn't matter if she's sad and hurt or happy and just not thinking about you...The fact is that she's barely acknowledged your messages -- usually that is a CLEAR signal that the other person isn't interested in developing things further. (She may be okay maintaining where you guys are, but that is NOT "good friends" or whatever else you had in mind when you clobbered her over the head with 5-year old resentments.)
Author dakid Posted January 8, 2008 Author Posted January 8, 2008 thanks guys for the comments, i appreciate everything. i screwed up for clobbering her over the head right away. i guess i'll let her discide how far our friendship will go. i'll learn to except whatever choice she makes.
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