sunnyjohal Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Hi everybody my story is like i was dating a girl and we were like living together for 3 months and you can call it just a relationship for 3 months butI really loved her:love: . It was really nice. She seemed really happy;). She was really happy the way i treated her. It seemed like perfectly healthy relationship:love:. We never had a fight over anything and i used to give her all the space she wanted. Her high school friend was over in the city to meet her and i told her to go enjoy because she met her after 4 years and we didn't meet for two days and then i had to go out of the city for three days. I called her and said if i could see her before going and she came over and broke up with me with telling me that there are several factors and she is not comfortable right now . I met her in the evening we talked and everything is alright. She says she cant stay without me too and then i receive a text a day after that she is with some of her friends in the desert for offroading and she cant pick me up. and next day i meet her at her place we go out to look for a new apartment:) and i had a feeling that she is not with me anymore .She is with her friends and same night i call her and she doesn't answer. The day after that i meet her at her work and she comes to my apartment and tells me that there was a guy she used to like before and he is trying to make his way back into her life thats why she wants to break up she wants to date other people too. She really likes me the way i treat her and she says i am too good for her and she is not used to be treated like this:rolleyes::sick:. All the guys she had in her life before me were A**h*L*S and that's her problem and she doesn't know what she wants. She needs to figure that out and she doesn't know whether there is chance of a reunion. She wants to date other people too and then all the procedure started. I acted like everyone else begged, pleaded for few days and trust me i did that a lot because this breakup came as a surprise for me and nothing happened:eek:. She had a mind set and told me that if she gave me a second chance now it won't last very long. I'll be more hurt than i am. I called her for three days. She answered and then i returned her stuff and i was taking sleeping pills and drinking alot so thought of going to India:mad: which i had no plan of going otherwise and she knows that too that i came here just because of the breakup and before going to airport i met her at her work and told her that i was going for good and this way I can give her more space and then again got drunk and screwed it up. Before boarding, made all those sarcastic texts and and then mailed her that i was drunk and i really didn't mean to say all that to her:o. Its been like 20 days except just two brief casual emails i wrote which were just replied point to to point . We haven't talked. I am in India and she is California. I want to get her back badly like others and don't really want to mess up anything now because i have messed it up enough already. I just wanted to know what do I do. She works at the same place where I work:confused: and I will have to see her everyday so NC is out of the equation and i am going back in mid January. I casually mailed her on new year, but I don't know whether was a wise thing to do but I was confused because it was just a three month relationship it might be more easier to forget for her. I just want to follow what ever you guys say because I followed myself and my friends and pushed her away. and I now know that she is already dating another guy so there is fear of seeing him too and I want to know that how should I behave with her on my work because I cant just ignore her . I can't afford to do that anymore and forgive me for my bad english
Green Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 You should date other people, or atleast be out there trying to date other people.
wowIlose Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 consider yourself lucky that its only been 3 months. Cut contact to a minimum and try to meet new people. good luck
Ronni_W Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I agree with the other posters -- it is time to move on because this relationship is over. The details of her being happy with you and how you treated her are irrelevant. It's ALL in the past. At work, act professionally and courteously, and that's it. May I also suggest to not drink to the point where you're sending stupid texts, emails or voicemails -- your future dates and g/f's won't appreciate it at all.
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