stepheine Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 A lot of you have read my previous threads related to my ex boyfriend and I breaking up. We were broke up for a 1.5 months and it was the most difficult time for me. I could not get him off my mind and I was so hurt and confussed like many of you are. A lot of tears were shed but I never stopped thinking he was a decent person, I just didn't understand him. Finally right about the time he starts turning around I start feeling a little better like I can move one. Don't get me wrong I still have a lot of feeling for him but I just started to enjoy things around me and not focus on him as much. I made big exciting changes like moving out of my roommates to be on my own, hanging out with interesting people, leaning on friends and family and realizing that I was a great person even if he didn't see it others did. Well, then he starts coming around slowly. At first this is all I wanted in the world guys!! I wanted him to want me back, I dreamed of it!! So encounter number one since break up EX tells me he can see me two times a week and that is it. That he thinks I am a great girl but that he has not time and energy for a 100% relationship. I told him I want a man who can give 100% and I want to give 100%. End result he says lets take a few days to think about things. OK....................................... He calls me every day then ask if we can go out on Sat. I agreed. Well, Friday he met with his business partner and drunk dialed me at 4:22am which is not like him at all esp. to call me I was surprised but didn;t answer. He later told me he was drunk. Saturday night I met with him and he seemed "normal" again. Not as antsy not as nervous. He was trying to be sweet and close to me. I finally asked him what he wanted and he said for things to be back to the way they were before he lost his job. Course there was nothing I wanted to hear more!! Once again I was upfront and honest with him by telling him that I care about him that I don't want to get hurt again that if his intentions are not good and just to have me around for fun then please do not keep me around. I told him I was worried about this. Response: "I know what I did was wrong and I understand that you are concerned. I have alot of making up to do and I just hope that you allow me to make it up to you and I hope I can be the man you want me to be. Is this guy for real?? Is he playing a game?? Can he actually mean this or am I stupid if I fall for it?
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Your secand guessing about getting back together with him which means your not ready to get back with him, your still hurt from him, give yourself time to heal. In my opinion if he wanted to be with you he would not take the easy way out by ending the relationship with you - he would have worked he's way round the obstical.
Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I agree, but also, things are easier said than done. He's doing a lot of talking right now. You might want to see if he can back it up.
sedgwick Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Sounds like things are promising. Just remember that the most important thing you can do is continue to work on yourself, continue to find and pursue interests outside the relationship, and let him do the rest of the work. He has a lot to prove to you. Let him prove it! And...congratulations.
Author stepheine Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 THANKS TO ALL you guys R the best!!!1
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