Nemo Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I think the litmus test is immediately after completing a sex act. If he rolls over, and goes to sleep, then he's only so-so interested. If he spoons you, then you could have a real connection on your hands. Kissing is so high school.
norajane Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Ladies, don't you know that a man is interested, even if he hasn't kissed you yet? What about all the eye contact, body language and sometimes electric connection? I think it's kind of cool, when a guy who's showing blatant signs of interest, is willing to hold off on the kiss. Anticipation can be something else. I know what you mean. Not a lot of guys can pull that off, though.
Trialbyfire Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I know what you mean. Not a lot of guys can pull that off, though. It's not that the guy can pull it off, it's also how closely you're watching him and also, how you let him know you're interested too. For example, instead of hooking my arm through his, which is something I would do to a buddy, I would have been touching him in a more flirtatious way, combined with a lot of eye contact.
Nemo Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 For example, instead of hooking my arm through his, which is something I would do to a buddy, I would have been touching him in a more flirtatious way, combined with a lot of eye contact. Not all guys like being touched down there, unless you are going to follow through.
Trialbyfire Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Not all guys like being touched down there, unless you are going to follow through. I've yet to meet a guy who doesn't like being touched down there, regardless if you're going to follow through...
whichwayisup Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 You stole Lonestar's avatar. Tsk, tsk. It's on lone from Lonestar! :laugh: Can women seriously not wait until the second date for a kiss? Geez, I thought men were horndogs My motto is this - Never rush a good thing. BUT - If the chemistry isn't there from the start, you feel no zingyzolt in the penie, then don't bother with the kiss on the first night.
shadowplay Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I've yet to meet a guy who doesn't like being touched down there, regardless if you're going to follow through... on a first date?!
Trialbyfire Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 on a first date?! I don't know if Nemo was serious, but I certainly wasn't...
Nemo Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I don't know if Nemo was serious, but I certainly wasn't... Bollocks!!
norajane Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 It's not that the guy can pull it off, it's also how closely you're watching him and also, how you let him know you're interested too. For example, instead of hooking my arm through his, which is something I would do to a buddy, I would have been touching him in a more flirtatious way, combined with a lot of eye contact. See, for me to be watching him closely and to be flirting with intent, turning it on, he'd had to have really engaged my interest, engaged my imagination. That's the part not too many can pull off...but the ones that do...they're priceless.
Trialbyfire Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 See, for me to be watching him closely and to be flirting with intent, turning it on, he'd had to have really engaged my interest, engaged my imagination. That's the part not too many can pull off...but the ones that do...they're priceless. 'Tis why I limit my dating to the ones that can...intrigue...
Nemo Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 See, for me to be watching him closely and to be flirting with intent, turning it on, he'd had to have really engaged my interest, engaged my imagination. That's the part not too many can pull off...but the ones that do...they're priceless. I think guys have to use all their powers of imagination to picture the girl naked. So a guy's imagination is always engaged. Pretty much all guys can pull this off...but the ones that can hide it...they're priceless.
Cobra_X30 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I know what you mean. Not a lot of guys can pull that off, though. Two words. Body Language. Look into her eyes deep and kiss her hand. There are many ways to pull that off. Usually I go for the goods. I know who and what I am... and it shows through. The point is that I find out me more of who she is.
Trialbyfire Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Bollocks!! I debated posting this but hey, life's too short, et al. You're right. I have nicknames for every guy I've ever dated. My g/f was asking me yesterday "So, did you have fun on Saturday night?". I said "But of course. He was a 9."
Vertex Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Before my girlfriend and I were dating, she thought I was gay because I didn't invite her to sleep with me in my dorm room for at least a month after I met her.
Nemo Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I debated posting this but hey, life's too short, et al. I'm glad you won. But Vertex is absolutely right. If you don't go straight for the gold, then she's going to assume you are bendy.
LovesDog Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 will you run into this girl again? say at work or something?
Lee725 Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 I know this thread has changed a bit, but in regards to the opening: An ex of mine met me and then waited a week to call me. I never thought i would hear from him again. We ended up having a 3.5 year relationship. I have not read all the way through this so if i have missed a bit - sorry, but if someone didnt call me back within 3 days (and they didnt have a REALLY valid reason) , i would say "SEE YA".
Author Krytie TV Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 (edited) I just thought I would pass this along as I found it to be a little surprising and unusual. So I called her again on Monday night and left a message. It was much a way for me to say that I tried and to move away from it as anything. So I got a call from her Tue night. She said that she would really like to go out again tis weekend, but that she doesn't feel that she is ready to start dating again after her last recent experience with an ex. I told her I appreciated the call, and it was brief. This isn't about the truth or what she is really thinking. I can never really know and ultimately, don't really care. The thing that struck me about this is that she actually called to tell me that. I had begun to think that ignoring people was all that anyone ever did, and I have so much respect for the fact that she called and faced it rather than just ignore me. I don't know her motivations, but it's so appreciated to experience that kind of showing of respect. Edited January 9, 2008 by Krytie TV
Art_Critic Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Oh Gosh.. Welcome to the friend zone.... She would start dating if you had tweaked her interest high enough..Yeah.. She called.. but you have called her twice without her returning your call... She sees something in you to offer the friend zone.. Maybe she is thinking that you will grow on her and she will start to feel something:)
Author Krytie TV Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 It's all good, I'm not stressing about it. I can handle no interest.
Star Gazer Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 There could still be interest there, K. I recently had two different guys ask me out. I'm not sure what the state of my relationship is with BF, but even if we were done-done, there's no way I'd be ready to date these guys. They are both HOT, intelligent, funny, charming. Seriously, timing can be a b*tch.
Trialbyfire Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 I don't know her motivations, but it's so appreciated to experience that kind of showing of respect. No kidding. I wish all people would subscribe to this methodology. Don't leave people hanging.
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