Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Most of my relationships have started when the woman has texted or emailed me the next day saying "thanks, I had a lot of fun last night." She had actually done that before I got home that night.
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 I need to learn how to multi-quote
oppath Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 In all fairness to Krytie, he was never using women. He wanted to date around and when sex entered the equation, he came on LS asking "how do I handle this in a way that doesn't make her feel hurt." His behavior was always about making sure he didn't hurt someone inadvertently. It happens. You go on a few dates. You get caught in the moment and you have sex. That in and of itself is not leading someone on and almost every woman I know has done it to a guy when they weren't wanting a relationship. The fact that he came on LS saying "how do I handle this?" demonstrated that he wanted to be upfront with everyone and use no-one. We all have our make out phases. there is nothing wrong with it. I have female friends that will race to see how many men they can kiss in a month. Nothing is wrong with it as long as you are not COURTING.
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 (edited) At any rate, thanks everyone. This thread has answered my question. I'll go try to find validation somewhere else I'm trying to cram 15 years of dating experience into 6 months. It can get a little confusing... but I'm learning slowly. Edited January 7, 2008 by Krytie TV
Trialbyfire Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Grrrr...Krytie, what is it that you're looking for, when you're dating. I get edgy reading your posts because I'm not even certain what it is you're looking for, anymore. You ask a lot of women out using the numbers strategy. What do you think is going to happen when you play the numbers game?
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 You ask a lot of women out using the numbers strategy. What do you think is going to happen when you play the numbers game? I think I understand what you're asking. I do understand that when you play the numbers, you're going to swing and miss a lot... I got that. That's really not the problem, though it can be a little discouraging at times. My difficulty comes in that I find myself in a hardcore dating culture here where I live that I have never experienced before in my life. I seriously have very little idea how it all works, and that's the annoying part. With each attempt, it comes more into perspective. What am I looking for? Just a good person who can give what I can. The reason that it's easy for me to ask out a variety of people is because the physical part isn't so important to me. It's just that I haven't been able to get to know anyone on a personal level. Sure... it's me. I get that, and that's OK. I'm a little unusual and always will be. It'll all fall into place sooner or later. Is that what you're asking?
Trialbyfire Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I think I understand what you're asking. I do understand that when you play the numbers, you're going to swing and miss a lot... I got that. That's really not the problem, though it can be a little discouraging at times. My difficulty comes in that I find myself in a hardcore dating culture here where I live that I have never experienced before in my life. I seriously have very little idea how it all works, and that's the annoying part. With each attempt, it comes more into perspective. What am I looking for? Just a good person who can give what I can. The reason that it's easy for me to ask out a variety of people is because the physical part isn't so important to me. It's just that I haven't been able to get to know anyone on a personal level. Sure... it's me. I get that, and that's OK. I'm a little unusual and always will be. It'll all fall into place sooner or later. Is that what you're asking? Thank-you. That helps to put it into better perspective. Just two more quick questions: Have you found any good male friends to connect with, on a more relaxed level?Are you certain you're the type of person who enjoys a hardcore dating culture?
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Have you found any good male friends to connect with, on a more relaxed level?Are you certain you're the type of person who enjoys a hardcore dating culture? Yes, I have one really good male friend and a few other social friends... poker and nights out on the town, things like that. I am not a person who enjoys the hardcore dating culture. But if that's what exists, what are the alternatives?
Trialbyfire Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Yes, I have one really good male friend and a few other social friends... poker and nights out on the town, things like that. I am not a person who enjoys the hardcore dating culture. But if that's what exists, what are the alternatives? Relax Krytie. Take a break. There's a real down-to-earth guy inside of you, an honest nice guy, not the fake doormat type, or the guy that pretends to be nice. I can see you finding someone, when you least expect it. Someone to walk hand-in-hand on the beach with and relax by the fireplace, with a glass of wine. Maybe I'm wrong, which I've been many times before, but that's the guy I see you as.
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Relax Krytie. Take a break. There's a real down-to-earth guy inside of you, an honest nice guy, not the fake doormat type, or the guy that pretends to be nice. I can see you finding someone, when you least expect it. Someone to walk hand-in-hand on the beach with and relax by the fireplace, with a glass of wine. Maybe I'm wrong, which I've been many times before, but that's the guy I see you as. Shhhh... LSers might think you've lost your mind. Your street cred will be shot
Trialbyfire Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Shhhh... LSers might think you've lost your mind. Your street cred will be shot Oh fine, quote me. Now I can't get my post deleted by the mods. Damn, never thought of that aspect.
Cobra_X30 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Shhhh... LSers might think you've lost your mind. Your street cred will be shot Hey Krytie... To the point of your original post. Dont give up too fast. I'd leave one more message. Do not get frustrated. Not all women play by the same rules. What works with one doesnt work with another. Just work the numbers and you will be fine. Remember that in so many cases it's all just a matter of timing! Hang in there Bro!
Saxis Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I'd leave one more message. Do not get frustrated. Not all women play by the same rules. What works with one doesnt work with another. Just work the numbers and you will be fine. Remember that in so many cases it's all just a matter of timing! Hang in there Bro! I agree... What are you going to lose? If you don't call again to make sure, you probably won't see her again. If you do call and she's just not interested, you probably won't see her again. But if you call and she's still interested, there's still hope. Nothing to lose....
latefragment Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 seriously, you should call one last time. it's not that big a deal. even though the odds are less than 1% she might have seriously not gotten your call (it's happened to me before and really messed me up). I'd give it a few more days, or a week even, and then call one more time and leave it at that, obviously, if she doesn't respond. (fyi, I've encountered so many dead-end dating situations recently too, so it's not like I don't understand where you're coming from. I know how much it sucks because I'm living it. LOL)
Ariadne Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Shhhh... LSers might think you've lost your mind. Your street cred will be shot Hey, Did you tell her you went to that orgie on NYE? Maybe she freaked out or some...
blind_otter Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 People always say you find someone when you stop looking. Although it's an oft-quoted cliche, there is some truth to it. I think when you stop looking, you tend to put out a vibe wherein you are comfortable with yourself and don't have that seeking sense about you. If the hardcore dating culture isn't your scene, I see no reason why you have to take part in it...
whichwayisup Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 People always say you find someone when you stop looking I agree with B_O. If you go looking for "it" actively, "it" won't happen.
Green Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I agree with B_O. If you go looking for "it" actively, "it" won't happen. spoken like a women. If your a man and you want a relationship your going to have to make some kind of move, just don't make the search for a relationship the meaning of your life.
tanbark813 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 If she hasn't returned your call yet, don't call again. I don't know whether you should call it a day, as she may still call you, but I definitely wouldn't keep chasing her. I like when NJ posts because it saves me time since I agree with her 99% of the time. I no longer put any value in a kiss on the first date. It really doesn't mean that much to me. Yes, but it may mean something to the girl. I agree with KMT that you should have kissed her. If she's walking arm-in-arm with you but you don't make a move she may take it as a lack of interest/confidence.
tanbark813 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I agree with B_O. If you go looking for "it" actively, "it" won't happen. You stole Lonestar's avatar. Tsk, tsk.
allina Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Is there any way she lost your number? Or do you know she has it saved in her phone? I'm an expert at losing numbers or accidentally deleting important voice mails. I once went on a date with a guy I met on campus. He called me the next day and left a VM which I accidentally deleted. By the time I realized it his call was no longer in my cell history and I had no way or reaching him. He text me again after a day and I was glad he did. Aside from a situation where something really comes up I'd say that if she's interested she'd call back. If I'm interested I always return a call within 24 hours.
phoensam Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 It is definitely not a good sign that she hasn't called you back. I think in another day or 2 you can forget all about her if she hasn't called. Definitely don't call her again, if she wants to see you again, she will call you.
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Yes, but it may mean something to the girl. I agree with KMT that you should have kissed her. If she's walking arm-in-arm with you but you don't make a move she may take it as a lack of interest/confidence. If there's one lesson I've taken away from my experiences it's don't force a moment that doesn't exist. There was no "kissing" moment, in my mind, so I didn't force one. Besides, in any right thinking person's mind, a follow up phone call would substitute for a show of interest?
tanbark813 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 If there's one lesson I've taken away from my experiences it's don't force a moment that doesn't exist. There was no "kissing" moment, in my mind, so I didn't force one. I agree, but you can always create one.
Author Krytie TV Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Is there any way she lost your number? Or do you know she has it saved in her phone? Given the fact that she texted me on my way home from the date, I would have to say that rules out the lost theory.
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