LoveIsABeauty Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 What I want to know is why some people just leave without a word. I know every situation is different and in my situation he won’t take my calls anymore so I stopped calling him after the first couple times I tried. I find it rude and disrespectful but I can’t judge him since I don’t know what happened. So here I am sitting tight waiting for the day I'll see his face again. In this case we had an LDR for a short while. The thing is I understand why people would do it. I mean who wants to be in the position of hurting someone else. I mean if you could get away with it why not right? But the thing is if you know you will see that person again why would you do that? If that person and his/her family were close to your family why would you do that? I just find it odd. We were serious about each other if I do say so myself. I try not to romanticize our relationship but try to stick to reality and in reality I do feel he fell in love with me. Now I know he could have moved on, could have found someone else, could have just fallen out of love with me somehow, or he could have felt that the long distance was too much or something could have happened with his family… basically it could have been anything. But I mean if he wanted out he could have been like we’re done and I’m sorry and then hang up on me. He could have been like I can’t do this anymore, I’m sorry don’t call again please, we’ll see each other when we’ll see each other and hang up on me. If I did call again he could have ignored my calls or answer and hang up on me. I just don’t understand why he would pretend not to know me and other times pretend not to hear me and hang up on me without anything. This guy will see me again. Does he really think he could get away with it? Does he really think after his promises and everything we did and been through I would just let it go and forget about him no problem? Advice is needed thanks.
EYECANDY000 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I agree that he should at least give you the benfit of the doubt and let you know. Everyone needs closure! Its hard not having an explanantion because you are going to find yourself thinking, and wondering what happened and what did I do? Not being able to have that option to correct the problem is one of the hardest things. This may be how he deals with his emotions. He probaly knew that since you two are long distance then it made it that much easier. and if he called you then you would somehow persuade him that you should give the relationship another try. This guy has oviously made up his mind. do other thing to get your mind off him.. Even though its easier said then done. But let it go
LoveIsABeauty Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Yeah I know what you mean but it's just hard to let go when what happened doesn't make any sense!
phoensam Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 This guy sounds like a very serious jerk. Treating someone you care or cared about, like that is disgraceful. You want to know why he'd do it...he's incredibly self centered and only cares about his own feelings. The guy is a complete jerk. When you see him again, smile and say hi and keep walking...let him think it doesn't worry you at all. Let him think your life is great and you are not the least bit upset. I know its hard, but if you can do it you will walk away feeling better, with your pride back, and his might be a bit wounded.
LoveIsABeauty Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 Phoensam, you have no idea how much I cherish your words!! Everything you said I believe. The whole bit about smiling and saying hi and letting him think my life is great and that I’m not the least bit upset is what I have been thinking on doing and what I probably will do even though it is hard to do when I see him again. But you are 100% right and I appreciate your words. Thank you! If you have more advice I really could use it. You really did put a smile on my face when I needed it most since I was feeling a bit more than sad today so I really appreciate it. Thanks again.
phoensam Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 If you have more advice I really could use it. You really did put a smile on my face when I needed it most since I was feeling a bit more than sad today so I really appreciate it. Thanks again. I am soooo glad I cheered you up a bit. I've been silly enough to date lots of guys in the same profession as me, and found myself in that situation more than once. One in particular had me shaky for years! I would start to shake inside every time I'd see him, but somehow would manage to use all my best acting skills, and say a pleasant hello, how are you, walk on by, and it made me feel so happy each time that I was able to pull it off. A couple years down the road he was begging for me back, and I got to say no. It will completely confuse your guy and put him back in his place a bit if you can pull it off. Show no disappointment, no nothing. You sound like the kinda gal who can pull it off!
johan Posted January 15, 2008 Posted January 15, 2008 I couldn't deal with all the clanking every time someone got excited.
LoveIsABeauty Posted January 16, 2008 Posted January 16, 2008 Oh wow!! Your story was definitely an inspiration for me thanks!! Yeah I think that’s what I’m going to do. It’s going to be hard but I’ll try. The thing is I’m so tired of thinking about him and whatnot. I can’t seem to let go even though I want to. I wish I could just see him and get this all over with because for some reason I feel that these feelings won’t stop until I see him again. After that it either gets worse or better and I’m tired of not knowing which one it’s going to be…. [FONT="][/FONT]
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