smacky Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 k in a nutshell. Married for 15.5 years. great guy @ first, then realized he has a drinking problem. Left for 3 months, things got better, so got back together. He got a DUI, we had a child together who is now almost 4. He has no ambition. He drinks all the time, and takes very little parental resposibility. Here is an example of a behavior that has worsened on the rare occasion that I went say to have hair done, if baby cried, he would call my cell and just hold it to her crying and make me listen to it, he does not attempt to comfort. . The older he gets, the worse he gets, more judgemental, hateful, curses all the time. Continues to drink all the time. no ambition. Had some financial problems, had to file for bankruptcy(my fault as much as his) we did the one where u repay what u owe. As time goes on I realize I do not want to be with him anymore. I try to tell him now unhappy I am, but he doesn't seem to hear me. Nothing changes. There has been no physicality in our marriage(not that I am complaining) for a year. I am feeling guilty about leaving and am afraid he will try to take our daughter from me. I also worry about affording life on my own with the payments on the banko, rent, daycare etc. Give me some ideas... and before u start, no I am not perfect, but I give him opportunities to discuss things and I get nothing. I am at a loss and am SO unhappy.
Lizzie60 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I say get ready to move out.. put some money on the side for you and your kid... He won't change... he had all the opportunity to but chose not to ... DUI, you left him.. etc... he is immature. Trust me, your kid will be much better with only you as the main caretaker. He can't get the child from you... take notes, keep a journal of everything he does that shows his immaturity...etc... you might need it one day. Good luck!
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