nextel Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 In other words, whenever you get together....what continues to make the 2 of you get closer? What sparks your R with him/her? What things do you do to each other/for each other/together that can lead you to the next level in your R? Personally, I would say the fact that we communicate well, have the same interests and we respect each other makes our R worth exploring and taking to the next level. We have a desginate date of the week that is strictly date night. Its usually fun because we get to go out and do anything, movies, starbucks, casino etc etc. We also do things other days/nights, but that one day is set aside for us. But his ability to spend nights with me, take my calls any time of the day (day or night), and his want to be with me helps us as we continue of this challenging route. Probably most importantly, I am comfortable being me around him. Your turn.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 In other words, whenever you get together....what continues to make the 2 of you get closer? What sparks your R with him/her? What things do you do to each other/for each other/together that can lead you to the next level in your R? Your turn. My R works because we have mutual respect, open communication, intense love and we put each other's needs before our own... I love the way he is with my children and family and how he is so eager to integrate into every part of my life...We are a team...And he shows me how much he loves me and I show him...Not empty words, but powerful actions...
Author nextel Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 GEL, it sounds like a beautiful R. You have my best. I kinda suspected that about your R....just the way you carry yourself in threads says alot.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 GEL, it sounds like a beautiful R. You have my best. I kinda suspected that about your R....just the way you carry yourself in threads says alot. Thanks! It is a beautiful R! Can't exactly say I'm proud of the way it started but the past is the past and can't be changed...We enjoy our present and are looking forward to our future... GEL
GreenEyedLady Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Just one thing: S-E-X You so crack me up!
RCCDMA Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Is this a relationship where you are both married? If so I am stuck in the exact same type of situation.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Is this a relationship where you are both married? If so I am stuck in the exact same type of situation. Is this directed to the Original Poster?
RCCDMA Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Yes. I thought that the situation was similar to my own. Sorry if I made a mistake.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Is this a relationship where you are both married? If so I am stuck in the exact same type of situation. The OP is single...
OWoman Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 In other words, whenever you get together....what continues to make the 2 of you get closer? What sparks your R with him/her? What things do you do to each other/for each other/together that can lead you to the next level in your R? We dream, we dance, we desire, we walk, we talk, we cuddle, we caress, we kiss, we laugh, we linger, we smoulder, we chill, we party, we work, we clean, we cook, we budget, we shop, we negotiate, we drive, we read, we sleep, we shower, we gym, we discuss, we make love, we drink, we eat, we go out, we stay in, we listen, we watch, we swim, we canoe, we plan, we sunbathe, we stargaze, we birdwatch, we write, we draw, we entertain, we visit, we nurse, we travel, we fix, we joke, we think, we give, we cherish, we love, we value, we treasure, we fit, we grow, we bond, we flourish, we hold, we hug, we melt, we simmer, we ignite, we radiate. Together. :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love:
precious1357 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 In other words, whenever you get together....what continues to make the 2 of you get closer? What sparks your R with him/her? What things do you do to each other/for each other/together that can lead you to the next level in your R? Personally, I would say the fact that we communicate well, have the same interests and we respect each other makes our R worth exploring and taking to the next level. We have a desginate date of the week that is strictly date night. Its usually fun because we get to go out and do anything, movies, starbucks, casino etc etc. We also do things other days/nights, but that one day is set aside for us. But his ability to spend nights with me, take my calls any time of the day (day or night), and his want to be with me helps us as we continue of this challenging route. Probably most importantly, I am comfortable being me around him. Your turn. Our relationship, well, we're both over 50 for one thing and I guess that helps us to realize that life is short and precious. He has been married for 40 years. They tolerate one another, I know that his wife can't stand him but for appearance sakes puts on a good front. He has no love for her more or less due to years of constant put downs, criticism and mocking (I've witnessed it). Due to my upbringing, I know how it feels to be mocked and criticized, lonely and putting on a front, so we just appreciate each other. I love him very much and he loves me more than I've ever been loved. I've never had anyone care about me and he is consistent and I mean consistent. We care about each other's feelings. Its the best feeling to have someone really care about me and I feel bad that its with a married man. We have plans for the future but in the meantime we are enjoying the love that we feel for one another. The "sparks" stay live because we respect and love each other just as we are.
TogetherForever Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 We dream, we dance, we desire, we walk, we talk, we cuddle, we caress, we kiss, we laugh, we linger, we smoulder, we chill, we party, we work, we clean, we cook, we budget, we shop, we negotiate, we drive, we read, we sleep, we shower, we gym, we discuss, we make love, we drink, we eat, we go out, we stay in, we listen, we watch, we swim, we canoe, we plan, we sunbathe, we stargaze, we birdwatch, we write, we draw, we entertain, we visit, we nurse, we travel, we fix, we joke, we think, we give, we cherish, we love, we value, we treasure, we fit, we grow, we bond, we flourish, we hold, we hug, we melt, we simmer, we ignite, we radiate. Together. :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: Ditto, ditto, ditto..... Together - Forever TF
Author nextel Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Thanks! It is a beautiful R! Can't exactly say I'm proud of the way it started but the past is the past and can't be changed...We enjoy our present and are looking forward to our future... GEL Its not about how you start your life, its about how you end life!
Author nextel Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 We dream, we dance, we desire, we walk, we talk, we cuddle, we caress, we kiss, we laugh, we linger, we smoulder, we chill, we party, we work, we clean, we cook, we budget, we shop, we negotiate, we drive, we read, we sleep, we shower, we gym, we discuss, we make love, we drink, we eat, we go out, we stay in, we listen, we watch, we swim, we canoe, we plan, we sunbathe, we stargaze, we birdwatch, we write, we draw, we entertain, we visit, we nurse, we travel, we fix, we joke, we think, we give, we cherish, we love, we value, we treasure, we fit, we grow, we bond, we flourish, we hold, we hug, we melt, we simmer, we ignite, we radiate. Together. :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: :love: They are beautiful qualities to have in a R. Will these flourish into happily ever after or at least a chance of it happening based on your experience?
Author nextel Posted January 7, 2008 Author Posted January 7, 2008 Our relationship, well, we're both over 50 for one thing and I guess that helps us to realize that life is short and precious. He has been married for 40 years. They tolerate one another, I know that his wife can't stand him but for appearance sakes puts on a good front. He has no love for her more or less due to years of constant put downs, criticism and mocking (I've witnessed it). Due to my upbringing, I know how it feels to be mocked and criticized, lonely and putting on a front, so we just appreciate each other. I love him very much and he loves me more than I've ever been loved. I've never had anyone care about me and he is consistent and I mean consistent. We care about each other's feelings. Its the best feeling to have someone really care about me and I feel bad that its with a married man. We have plans for the future but in the meantime we are enjoying the love that we feel for one another. The "sparks" stay live because we respect and love each other just as we are. Wow, sounds like a lot of love and caring and respect. Can't buy those qualities. How long do you intend to continue as OW? are you planning on changing the status of your R with him?
Lyssa Posted January 8, 2008 Posted January 8, 2008 Love - Understanding - Passion - Care - Respect - Patience - more love for one another... At the moment, we're thousands of miles apart and recently, we have discussed about him relocating to where I am at. So he is starting to sort things out such career etc. Hopefully it will be sooner than later!
precious1357 Posted January 9, 2008 Posted January 9, 2008 Wow, sounds like a lot of love and caring and respect. Can't buy those qualities. How long do you intend to continue as OW? are you planning on changing the status of your R with him? Just getting back. I never intended to be an OW and I'm holding on for a little while. Plans are underway for us to be together permanently, we'll see....
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