mikesinclair Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 hi there, had NC for 5 weeks till she spoke to me over xmas, then we spoke on msn and she said she missed talking to me, missed me, how good we were together.. so i told her to come and visit, and she said she would like that. then i got weak and emailed her today.. this is what i said.. she finished it with me btw, due to my lack of affection.. long story. Happy new year. Hope you had a good party I have been thinking a lot since we last spoke, I have decided i would like u back in my life. I believe everything is worth a second chance. Don't u? I know there were wrongs, but all wrongs can be made to rights, and they CAN, I have learnt a lot since you have been gone. We were good together real good. and deep down u know that too.... and that's the reason why I'm writing this to you. I dont care about all of that bollocks of playing it cool. I have many plans coming up and i want you by my side for them, There is Money and Sun but none of that matters without you in my life... I don't want to get all deep with you, but i want you back Missy and i believe we can make a good go of it. Its purely down to you, i am starting to promote nights, i have an investor, i need someone with intelligence to do the PR ( you ) we can make this big time. But i want you by my side, i know when something is good and worth fighting for, and i have nothing to lose by doing this...you are worth trying 100 times over You had a moment of stupidness and went home, which i am willing to overlook but now look at the bigger pic again and you will see that seeing me in my shorts is the most appealing option. well that's it, i wont go on and on, and i don't want to make you feel uncomfortable, but I'm doing what my heart is telling me and that's to tell you this OK and of course you would be stupid to turn such an offer down.., Take care and seriously think... there is a lot of love waiting for you over here. x thats ok itsnt it ? i dont want to apply pressure to her or make myself look desperate.. ( i didnt did i ? ) let me know folks. i feel so dumb and weak for sendin it, but also relived. thnx M
brothermartin Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Well. You don't sound desperate, that's for sure. Do you want my honest opinion? It may not matter because I don't know what works on your ex so.....
melodymatters Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Yeah, you don't sound desperate, rather cocky actually ! Was that one of the causes of your break up as well ?
torranceshipman Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Wow, cocky!! Lol! you defo don't sound desperate!
Author mikesinclair Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Well. You don't sound desperate, that's for sure. Do you want my honest opinion? It may not matter because I don't know what works on your ex so..... yes please i would like your opinion, and also to reply to the other comments, No she liked the cocky confident me, but towards the end of our relationship i was acting all weak and needy... think thats part of the reason she went... Now im back to myself so i guess looking cocky in the email may have a positive effect. But i hope it doesnt come across as rude cocky. thnx for the kind words all. keep em coming
brothermartin Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 i am starting to promote nights, i have an investor, i need someone with intelligence to do the PR ( you ) Are you asking her to give you another chance or offering her a job? That part may be confusing for her. She may see it as some kind of bribe, or a lame attempt at getting her back in your circle.
Jordane Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 LOL, I thought the same thing...is this a job offer? Also...you called her stupid...twice, I know it was sarcasm but it sounded pretty rude. You're not being pushy but with your sarcasm and little jokes in there, it doesn't seem very serious to me. Again, I don't know you ex...my boyfriend and I have a "policy" which is, we NEVER call each other anything like stupid or dumb, anything like that but if she's comfortable with that then whatever. Let us know how it goes, if she responds well.
JustinWolf Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 You are just as cocky as I am. At least, you don't sound too rude or you don't seem desperate which is usually good. But being cocky right now, I'm not sure if it's gonna work to your advantage. Then again, I don't know your ex.
Author mikesinclair Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 i am starting to promote nights, i have an investor, i need someone with intelligence to do the PR ( you ) Are you asking her to give you another chance or offering her a job? That part may be confusing for her. She may see it as some kind of bribe, or a lame attempt at getting her back in your circle. Ahh i see what you mean, but no its not like that at all... Its all true, but i didnt read it as a lame way to get her back, I really want her by my side. We had talked about it sometime ago.. i guess i was letting her know i was moving on with it... Sh&t it wasnt my intention of being cocky, just having a bit of humour instead of me "talking about the past" well, i wasnt going anywhere fast without sending it, guess this wont hurt. OH, and check this out, two weeks ago i got a txt message from her, who was at a party and she wanted to know a name of a song i played to her so she could ask the DJ to play it.... now thats cocky and rude. so i think im safe
brothermartin Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Ahh i see what you mean, but no its not like that at all... Its all true, but i didnt read it as a lame way to get her back, I really want her by my side. We had talked about it sometime ago.. i guess i was letting her know i was moving on with it... Sh&t it wasnt my intention of being cocky, just having a bit of humour instead of me "talking about the past" well, i wasnt going anywhere fast without sending it, guess this wont hurt. OH, and check this out, two weeks ago i got a txt message from her, who was at a party and she wanted to know a name of a song i played to her so she could ask the DJ to play it.... now thats cocky and rude. so i think im safe Not really cocky to ask you for the name of a song, maybe a little rude. But it's hard to differentiate between humor and sarcasm when it's in text form. It would have been different if you had left her a message saying these things because the little inflections in you voice would have told her what you really meant. But in written form it comes off as cocky or arrogant. Understand?
Author mikesinclair Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 (edited) Not really cocky to ask you for the name of a song, maybe a little rude. But it's hard to differentiate between humor and sarcasm when it's in text form. It would have been different if you had left her a message saying these things because the little inflections in you voice would have told her what you really meant. But in written form it comes off as cocky or arrogant. Understand? I sure do, as soon as i sent the mail i wish i had called instead. Anyway its done now, I hope she reads it as i meant it to sound... and now looking at the " i need someone to do the PR " now that was stupid. im shaking my head as i write this. oh well its done now, ive sent it, i was hoping it would do good, but by reaction from you guys seems as though its going to cause more bad. I feel like writing another email to say, please dont read this as me being cocky... Edited January 6, 2008 by mikesinclair
brothermartin Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Don't beat yourself up man. If she's really worth the effort, pull out all the stops! If she dosent come back to you, at least you'll know you had the balls to try!
BlueEyedSarah Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 she finished it with me btw, due to my lack of affection If you do 'win her back' then remember to be very affectionate to her then otherwise she will leave you again Oh and also don't be too overly affectionate otherwishe she will leave you due to feeling too smothered
Storyrider Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 If someone told me I was stupid not to get back with them, it would turn me right off.
sedgwick Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Except for calling her stupid twice (even if it was sarcastic, "stupid" is a harsh word), and putting the business offer into it (which could make her think you only want her back because you want her to promote you), it sounds okay.
carrotgirl Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Aw shaddup haters He was just trying to be light hearted. Carrot
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