sutty1 Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 (edited) hi there i broke up with my girlfriend of 5 1/2 years last week and really dont know what to do, i feel a mess but i know she does to, even though a week ago we agreed not to see each other for however long it takes we are both dying inside and the temptation and need to see each other just gets worse. it started off with her being scared and confused and wanting time apart to see if she really loves me and the day after this one of her mates told her that i had kissed another girl which i thought she would never speak to me again even though i still feel it never happened the evidence stacks against me, but now after all this she has realised that she loves me so bad but we feel like time apart may conclude that we are meant to be together and the only way to realise this is to live seperate lives, but will that just force each other to find other people when deep down we dont want to, im scared in the future she will move on and i wont. if i typed everything i would be here for days and would like to talk to someone who feels like me. i feel my life is over....but as bad as it sounds her feeling the same feels better than if she didnt feel the same, im confused. Edited January 6, 2008 by sutty1 hen meant to say when
Author sutty1 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 quick question... do people believe that once something is broke it is broke forever or that given time things can be fixed or is it an impossible question?
ahah2322 Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 wow i can totally relate to you. 5.5 years is a long time (my bf and i have only been together for 3 and its been a helluva ride)... i feel your pain and anguish. i've never understood how people dating for a long long time can break up and quickly find another partner or even deal with it eventually... and i suppose this is just how the world works. somewhere deep in our hearts are the years of good memories we will never ever forget and they can never be taken away... hey sutty, if its meant to be, it's meant to be. and please do not forget that nothing is impossible.. if you guys are meant to be together, it will happen, surely. ((hugs)) be strong sutty.
Author sutty1 Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 i was reading some posts about how people were dealing with affairs when married and were finding it hard to forgive and forget, is my situation the same or different and is it easier for my ex to forgive and forget seen as we are not engaged/married and young and can still change and learn, i feel my mistakes have seen ones of a person young and inexperienced, or am i kidding myself thinking it will be ok in the future. basically what i am saying is how much worse would it be if i has sex with another person or were married and this happened....
kymberann Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I am confused did you or did you not kiss another girl? Did you kiss her when you t wo were broken up? This confuses me too... but we feel like time apart may conclude that we are meant to be together and the only way to realise this is to live seperate lives, So seperate lives forever and not getting back together even though the time apart may conclude you two were meant to be together?
Author sutty1 Posted January 9, 2008 Author Posted January 9, 2008 me and mygirlfriend have been split up now for 10 days, she had trust issues with me because i kissed someone else in the past, we were together nearly 6 years and were nearly 22 now. when we split up 10 days ago we agreed to give ourselves a period where we dont see or speak so we can get our heads straight, but its imposible to do, we have seen or spoke to each other everyday not because we want to but bacause we need to. she says that all this happening has made her realise how much she loves me, she sits there at night wishing she could be in my company but its too hard and she cant. but its not as simple as that can she ever forgive me and trust me again, how do i prove to her i can be trusted. i know whats shes saying but it frustrates me that my friends mum had an affair on her dad and that is far far worse than what iv done and there still together. im so worried that she cares and loves me but shell meet someone else and i will fade out of her memory, what can i do to make it work for the future or should i just let go, it just seems a hell of a wastecus we are so good together and hardly ever argue...i just dont know what to do....help!!!!
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