xxscarredxx Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Well, after months of trying to get rid of him... 6:47am, my cell rings PRIVATE. Already knew who it was, and wasn't in the mood to answer it. Right after that, my voicemail indicator pops up. When i retrieve my message, she says, "I see u and T**** can't stop F*ckin' around. When u see that B*tchA*s, tell him that i said that i got somethin' for u and him.... Get Ready." Later on, she calls again and i decide to answer. She proceeded to tell me that i need to get ready for him to move in with me.. she was okay with it. I get kinda irritated with her and let this slip out, "Well honey, sorry but i shoulda received ur phone call like a yr ago". She then says, "maybe so, but I'm callin' to let u know that he's coming to stay with u." And then i say, "Okay, is there anything else u'd like to talk about?" And she goes, "No, is there anything u'd like to tell me?" and i go no. Then i hang up on her. I don't even mess with the jerk anymore. She must've ran across some old text messages that me and him sent back and forth. I tried to text him yesterday and today, but got no response. I hope all is well... what do u think?
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Why were you so rude to her? If the A was over and has been over for a year, you should have told her that it is over and you want nothing to do with her husband. Instead she got more pissed off. Why did you text him? All that now will do is feed into the drama and suck you in.
bentnotbroken Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I don't get her response either. If she was done with him why not say so. That's just strange.
Author xxscarredxx Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Me and him just broke up... like 2 months ago (when i met my ex girlfriend). Me and him had been dating since January of 2006. She called me over the summer which forced me to get my number changed. Rude?? she calls me all times of night and day... says nothing, hangs up, leaves bad messages on my voicemail... but i'm rude? I did nothing more than tell her what she wanted to know.. afterall, that is why she called me, right? to know what was going on. Can't stand the heat? get outta the kitchen, or better yet, stop calling!! I'm not calling and harassing her. Its over.
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Uhh, hello, you were having sex with her husband! Did you expect her to thank you or something? Chances are her husband is probably acting weird and not proving that he can be faithful to her again, so she is reacting to him not trying to make her feel secure in the marriage. So, she does NOT trust him at all, figures he is lying to her again, hense her calls to you. ALL you had to do is was tell her "I have not heard a word or seen him in 2 months. We've been in NC. If he is acting odd around you, maybe he is seeing someone else." By being rude back to her, all taht does is feed into the drama. Unless that's what you want? You could change your number, block her, or ignore her completely, but no, you've chosen to keep it going by talking to her.
Author xxscarredxx Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Sorry, but i'm not gonna keep changing my number everytime she calls me. I have work and other obligations right now so that means i have to keep my number. And NO i'm not telling her anything. I just want her to stop calling me. I thought i made myself clear last month when she called that me and him were not communicating and for her to back off before i call the police on her for phone harrassment... which she did, but called me again yesterday. I don't know what the homelife is there.. i just know that i want the calls to stop HERE. So, NO im not gonna be nice when she calls NO i'm not gonna try to talk to her.. i did that already with no good results. Maybe i did add a lil fuel to the fire, but i'm only human and i get irritated too by this sometimes. YES i did sleep with her husband.... but it takes 2. He'd come to my place, he'd call me, he'd beg and whine and plead when i broke it off with him, he pursued me. It was fun, but i'm done with it!
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Then if she calls you again, tell her that you are going to file a restraining order against her and file a harrassment suit against her as well. EXPLAIN NICELY to her that the A is over and that you want nothing to do with her husband, that she needs to talk to him about her anger and not direct at you anymore. I bet she'd stop calling.
Author xxscarredxx Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 I shoulda explained it to u guys more, instead of posting an 1/2 assed thread. Now u know i'm not such a rude b*tch anymore. LoL High 5!
whichwayisup Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Well, you still don't have to diss his wife anymore. In all honesty, maybe, just maybe, she was looking for you to appologize to her, own up to your part in the affair. Sure this is irritating, her calling you, but the pain you helped inflict on her is alot worse than afew phone calls that you didn't want...I'm just sayin'..
bentnotbroken Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Her calling is just one of the possible consequences that comes from sleeping with someone else's husband. Where I'm from if phone calls are all you got, you got of really easy.
White Flower Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I think you'll get no more calls if you just tell her it's been over for 2 months and that if she's still suspicious she should look elsewhere for the new OW. This will definitely get her to see that 1) she has no more reason to call you and, 2) her husband is a serial cheater and she's better off without him.
LucreziaBorgia Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I think that he probably has a new OW and she thinks that it is you. WWIU has the right idea here: Then if she calls you again, tell her that you are going to file a restraining order against her and file a harrassment suit against her as well. EXPLAIN NICELY to her that the A is over and that you want nothing to do with her husband, that she needs to talk to him about her anger and not direct at you anymore. I bet she'd stop calling.
sally4sara Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Her calling is just one of the possible consequences that comes from sleeping with someone else's husband. Where I'm from if phone calls are all you got, you got of really easy. I hear that! At the last apartment I had in my old neighborhood, a woman in the building next to mine was sleeping with a married man. His wife showed up at my neighbor's home, broke in and tied her up. She burned her alive. Horrible! This has happen two other time in my old neighborhood.
underpants Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 YES i did sleep with her husband.... but it takes 2. He'd come to my place, he'd call me, he'd beg and whine and plead when i broke it off with him, he pursued me. It was fun, but i'm done with it! She may not be done with you. Can't say I blame her. Maybe she just wants to have a little fun herself.
mopar crazy Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I hear that! At the last apartment I had in my old neighborhood, a woman in the building next to mine was sleeping with a married man. His wife showed up at my neighbor's home, broke in and tied her up. She burned her alive. Horrible! This has happen two other time in my old neighborhood. OMG that is awful!!! I hope she rots in jail! What sick woman. I know she was hurt but damn, killing the OW, that is just crazy. scarred, I agree w/ the other posters. I do think you were awful rude to her. If you haven't been seeing her H then you should have politely told her that. Getting angry just makes you sound guilty even though you aren't.
sally4sara Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 OMG that is awful!!! I hope she rots in jail! What sick woman. I know she was hurt but damn, killing the OW, that is just crazy. scarred, I agree w/ the other posters. I do think you were awful rude to her. If you haven't been seeing her H then you should have politely told her that. Getting angry just makes you sound guilty even though you aren't. It was pretty disturbing and yes she was caught and jailed. But that is the point of my post. The BS had to have known she would be caught; she was just so mad and hurt that she didn't care anymore. She just wanted revenge and felt justified enough to do it. If I was the OP, I'd let the W know about the two months ago break up. Get off her radar because she is already voicing threats.
bentnotbroken Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I was thinking about a situation in my town. The husband found the wife and the om together, he let her believe that he forgave them. He basically set them up. He had them followed and photographed. He asked her if the affair was over, she lied and said yes. He knew the truth. He set them up. He sent her flowers, saying they were from the om and to meet him at a hotel in town. The om got a similar message. When they got to the hotel, he was waiting. They were both shot in the genitals and he sat and waited for the police. They both survived, but the wife was paralyzed and the om will not be having sex with anyone again. The husband spent a couple of years in the looney bin, because judge say he was pushed to the limit mentally by the 2 of them. That's why I say you never know what the BS is truly capable of.
GreenEyedLady Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I was thinking about a situation in my town. The husband found the wife and the om together, he let her believe that he forgave them. He basically set them up. He had them followed and photographed. He asked her if the affair was over, she lied and said yes. He knew the truth. He set them up. He sent her flowers, saying they were from the om and to meet him at a hotel in town. The om got a similar message. When they got to the hotel, he was waiting. They were both shot in the genitals and he sat and waited for the police. They both survived, but the wife was paralyzed and the om will not be having sex with anyone again. The husband spent a couple of years in the looney bin, because judge say he was pushed to the limit mentally by the 2 of them. That's why I say you never know what the BS is truly capable of. Well, that is a truly horrible story... Are you arguing that it is right? He wasn't pushed to the limit...He set them up...That's premeditation...malice aforethought...Looks like the W and OM needed better representation... So would it be acceptable for the W to poison her H for paralyzing her? Eye for an eye right? Or is there a point that it stops?
nextel Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 what do u think? Let it go. Don't contact him. He already knows his situation. If I were you, I would have not even entertained the W. If MM's W ever called me, not that she would neithertheless.....I would tell her, your problem is your husband.
bentnotbroken Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Well, that is a truly horrible story... Are you arguing that it is right? He wasn't pushed to the limit...He set them up...That's premeditation...malice aforethought...Looks like the W and OM needed better representation... So would it be acceptable for the W to poison her H for paralyzing her? Eye for an eye right? Or is there a point that it stops? All I did was tell about a story in my town. I was trying to make a point one way or the other. I just think you have to be careful, because you really don't know who or what you are dealing with or what they are willing to do. The judge said he was pushed to the limit. I think he will have to answer to God just as the wife and om will. As we all will for the things that we do to hurt others.
child_of_isis Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 It sounds like he has a new OW. He is probably exhibiting "affair behavior" again. W is just assuming that it is the old OW.
precious1357 Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Why were you so rude to her? If the A was over and has been over for a year, you should have told her that it is over and you want nothing to do with her husband. Instead she got more pissed off. Why did you text him? All that now will do is feed into the drama and suck you in. Wife called me, said she saw his car in my neighborhood and that I am to keep him out of my house. She cursed me and my kids, it was truly awful...
OWoman Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Wife called me, said she saw his car in my neighborhood and that I am to keep him out of my house. She cursed me and my kids, it was truly awful... He's a stray dog that needs to be kept out of your house by you? Couldn't she simply ask HIM not to visit you, if she had issues?
Havn_a_life Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Sorry, but i'm not gonna keep changing my number everytime she calls me. I have work and other obligations right now so that means i have to keep my number. And NO i'm not telling her anything. I just want her to stop calling me. I thought i made myself clear last month when she called that me and him were not communicating and for her to back off before i call the police on her for phone harrassment... which she did, but called me again yesterday. I don't know what the homelife is there.. i just know that i want the calls to stop HERE. So, NO im not gonna be nice when she calls NO i'm not gonna try to talk to her.. i did that already with no good results. Maybe i did add a lil fuel to the fire, but i'm only human and i get irritated too by this sometimes. YES i did sleep with her husband.... but it takes 2. He'd come to my place, he'd call me, he'd beg and whine and plead when i broke it off with him, he pursued me. It was fun, but i'm done with it! if you want her to stop calling you then tell her you've been in NC with her H for 2 months, you've moved on and let it stand at that. If you're tired of the drama, then tell the truth.
Havn_a_life Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 I think you'll get no more calls if you just tell her it's been over for 2 months and that if she's still suspicious she should look elsewhere for the new OW. This will definitely get her to see that 1) she has no more reason to call you and, 2) her husband is a serial cheater and she's better off without him. This advice I can totally 100% agree with!
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