jdeedee Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I have been having a bad day and really want to call or email my ex, I know its a bad idea. I am so stressed. I thought that the last email I sent was good, she never replied. Ive been working on myself since then, still wishing in the back of the mind she'll forgive me for breaking up with her and today a bunch of people on these forums told me I wasn't trying hard enough. They said if I really want her back I should show it. I should call her or go see her, just because I sent one email that doesn't mean anything -- I am not trying hard enough. I don't know what to do. Part of me thinks hell she could reply to the email I sent but another part of me is saying they are right, I should work for this. Aghh. Please someone help me. I am worried if I call her now I am just pushing so hard and looking so desperate.
s_n_d Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I think if you want to do it, you should. Who are we to tell YOU what and what not to do..Right? At the end of the day, we all draw from OUR past experiences when we give others advice. There are no guarantees that anything will work however. Do what makes you happy. And yes its worth a try if you want to get her back.
brothermartin Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Q: If you "tried harder" and she still didn't want you back, what would you do then? Start stalking her? What if she agreed to take you back, but the feeling wasn't the same? What then? Will you stay no matter what?
jerbear Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 When was the last time you called her, not email but called her? Giver her some time. Follow up on the emails if you can and ask her for some time, just be up front with her. Life requires taking risks, you might get rejected and devastated but that is life. If she takes you back but it is not the same then just let it be and be her friend. If the relationship is better the you two are golden. I would avoid the stalking side.
Author jdeedee Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 When was the last time you called her, not email but called her? Giver her some time. Follow up on the emails if you can and ask her for some time, just be up front with her. Life requires taking risks, you might get rejected and devastated but that is life. If she takes you back but it is not the same then just let it be and be her friend. If the relationship is better the you two are golden. I would avoid the stalking side. I have no plans to stalk or anything like that. The last time I called her was when we were together, we werent really phone people. I texted her a few weeks before I emailed her, she replied but that was it. She isn't emailing me to follow up on that. If she replies I'll talk to her, if I see her I'll be nice but I can't keep pushing myself its a useless technique imo.
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