Author DJ Dancer Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 its is not your mistake, you tried your best in your relationship but there is time when enough is enough, i had enough with my ex because there is nothing wrong with me. and there is nothing wrong with you, he is just a a**, forget about him girl, dont hurt yourself, you deserve the best. Thank you! I know I did my best in the relationship but I was even being appreciated for being a good girlfriend to him..
confuse80 Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 well because he just doesnt want to listen, the only thing to do is now to let him go. because the more she hangs around the more she will get hurts and there is no point because he is not goin to go back to her now, may as well move on, if he realise his mistake he will be back of course but now he just think about his ego.
Ronni_W Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 ...I want him to realize and see what his mistakes was in the relationship.. Its like I'm the one that should be feeling bad because I BROKE up with HIM...Should I feel like that?? Of course, you do not NEED to feel bad for any reason...whether it's breaking up with someone or whatever else. Sorry - I'm a bit confused...Do you want to get back with him or do you (just) want him to acknowledge and apologize for hurting you? The fact that you broke up with him -- unless he is thick as a plank, he would know that you felt hurt or upset or disappointed or something along those lines. If it's the apology you're after, then don't sweat it and just write it off that you're not going to get that from him -- if he was at all interested in anything along these lines, he would have shown an interest by now -- asked what he did or what he can do to get back, etc. If it's because you want to express your hurt, then this is a great chance for you to start working on that -- but still don't expect apologies or anything from his side...just use it as your own learning experience, and move forward without him, from there.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Thats not what i meant. I meant if she loved him she should have done EVERYTHING possible to fix things with him. And it seems she did try talking to him bout all of it but he didnt listen. EXACTLY! He DIDN'T listen...what else could I have done to try and fix things?? He lived in another state so there was no way I could talk to him face to face and get to the bottom of things..Yeah I fell in love with him but I didn't want to admit it to myself or him being afraid what he would think..would he think I was desprate?? Would he think that I was crazy or needy if I would have told him yes I fell in love with you..
s_n_d Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Maybe so. Well now you need to get your mind off him and stop over thinking whether you should have explained yourself to him or not..Because he doesnt deserve that after what he did to you.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Of course, you do not NEED to feel bad for any reason...whether it's breaking up with someone or whatever else. Sorry - I'm a bit confused...Do you want to get back with him or do you (just) want him to acknowledge and apologize for hurting you? The fact that you broke up with him -- unless he is thick as a plank, he would know that you felt hurt or upset or disappointed or something along those lines. If it's the apology you're after, then don't sweat it and just write it off that you're not going to get that from him -- if he was at all interested in anything along these lines, he would have shown an interest by now -- asked what he did or what he can do to get back, etc. If it's because you want to express your hurt, then this is a great chance for you to start working on that -- but still don't expect apologies or anything from his side...just use it as your own learning experience, and move forward without him, from there. I want an apology and for him to know that he hurt me because he doesn't know that he hurt me and that by him not being a boyfriend to me was also why I was breaking up with him he doesn;t know any of that... I want us to speak as friends that is what i really want but he isn't even speaking to me when I thought we were friends...I been keeping in touch like he asked me too but I get no response from him when I do speak Thats why part of me wants to telling him now 9 months later that im hurt and to tell him why else I called it quits but another part of me is like no dont do it because being afraid I won't get a response or him not even caring and that would hurt even worse for me to have spoken what I felt ONCE again and getting my feelins rejected..
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Maybe so. Well now you need to get your mind off him and stop over thinking whether you should have explained yourself to him or not..Because he doesnt deserve that after what he did to you. Thanks i have thought about that too should I even say anything to him after he treated my like crap does he even deserve to know what he did so wrong to me and how he hurt me..I mean part of me does think he needs to know because he can at least see later on down the line in life that he was wrong...Thats all I want is for him to see he hurt me..
s_n_d Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Whenever he starts talking to you, you should tell him.
Ronni_W Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 I want an apology and for him to know that he hurt me ... I want us to speak as friends ...I been keeping in touch like he asked me too but I get no response from him when I do speak ... being afraid I won't get a response ... and getting my feelins rejected.. Well, I do think you're right about not getting all the responses that you would prefer: You can tell him that you're hurt BUT you can't force an apology out of him. You can want to be friends BUT you can't force him to want (or to be) that. It is a pretty clear and strong message when people don't contact us or respond to our contacting them -- you already know what that message is. He asked you for something (to keep in touch) that he clearly doesn't want anymore...and maybe he was being dishonest asking for it, in the first place. I do think there is a real risk that you will be rejected -- if you don't want that then, yes, you must just erase all his contact info and leave it at that.
Author DJ Dancer Posted January 6, 2008 Author Posted January 6, 2008 Well, I do think you're right about not getting all the responses that you would prefer: You can tell him that you're hurt BUT you can't force an apology out of him. You can want to be friends BUT you can't force him to want (or to be) that. It is a pretty clear and strong message when people don't contact us or respond to our contacting them -- you already know what that message is. He asked you for something (to keep in touch) that he clearly doesn't want anymore...and maybe he was being dishonest asking for it, in the first place. I do think there is a real risk that you will be rejected -- if you don't want that then, yes, you must just erase all his contact info and leave it at that. Your right! I cant make him do anything that I wanted him to do..I just wish he would have been honest enough to tell me he didn't want anything to do with me or even speak to me anymore..I would have been upset, hurt, confused, wondering why but at least i would have known the truth...So would you say that i was being dishonest about not telling him that I'm hurt and that when we broke up I didn't tell him he wasn't being my boyfriend that was also the reason why i was breaking up with you? Would you say i was being dishonest as well???
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