smoochie Posted January 5, 2008 Posted January 5, 2008 Hey all, I recently began dating a guy I am starting to really like. We have been "talking" for about 3 months but recently had sex for the first time a few weeks ago. A few days before we had sex, he said he was not ready for a relationship and neither was I. He just got out of another relationship about 6 months ago, so about 3 months before we started talking. Because of this, I have been reserved in demonstrating my feelings for him. Now I think he is really interested in taking our dating more seriously. He makes sure I am comfortable and really patient with me. I do not think he realizes I took what he said seriously because he has never treated me like I was an option, always a priority. He called me and said he noticed that during our love making I am "more into him" than when we are just hanging out. I thought about that for a while and can't seem to come up with why that is. He asked me if I felt "safe" there. I said I don't know if safe is a good word, but I do not have one to describe it. One side note, there is another guy that wants to talk to me but I am not sure if that is acceptable in our relationship. I know for a fact he stopped talking to another girl once me and him really started hitting it off. Has anyone else been in this place?
Jordane Posted January 6, 2008 Posted January 6, 2008 Why dont you ask him about it... say, "I know we discussed our relationship and decided to keep it fairly casual for a while but recently I've been getting mixed signals from you. I am still willing to keep it casual if that is what you are still looking for but that might mean that I will also not close all doors on anyone else who might be of interest to me." That way you aren't pressuring him into a relationship but you are letting him know that you are also not closed off to the idea.
Lucasarts Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 mmmm well i'm usually in the situation where i ask myself...do i want to be in a relationship and why? your case however is a lil different than mine, in which you dont know if you're prepared to be in a relationship. I would strongly think about your options as to whether or not you truly want to be in a relationship right now or not...your hesitation sorta indicates that you might not be ready right away, but weighing your options because you might like the idea of being with someone. either way i know you'll make the best choice
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