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hi all,

 

ive been with my boyfriend for 5.5 months, and if im honest, im not in love with him. He's in love with me though, and i feel guilty for not feeling the same way.

 

I live away at uni, and find things only develop when im home, which is only for a few days at a time.

 

I am falling in love with him i think, i want to spend loads of time with him which i never used to, and i have a funny feeling when i think of him sometimes :)

 

i have talked to him about this, but he doesnt want to break up and find someone else because he wants to be with me, and i dont want to find someone else because i want to be with him, i care about him so much, so my question is: does it matter that im not madly in love with him yet?

 

i hope that one day i will be, and as i say, i have this funny feeling sometimes when i think about him, i care about him, am very attracted to him, and all the rest :D

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It doesn't matter just yet. Its only been 5.5 months. For some people it takes longer than that to get that feeling. I will say that if the year mark hits and you still don't have those feelings, then you may want to consider the relationship.

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honestly i havent fallen in love with a girl yet

 

but that doesnt stop me from wanting to spend time with them, be with them, laugh with them, and share intimate moments with them

 

its all about who you are as a person, and just because you really really really like someone, doesnt mean you love them for everything they are. Right now it seems that you are slowly falling in love with this guy (which is a good thing right?) and you should keep seeing him more and more. It's all about finding what makes you want to be with someone like that and i think u are truly blessed for starting to see that in this individual.

 

and if it doesnt work out, well keep tryin and hopefully things will work out in the end

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