watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 (edited) So... As I said, yesterday... I am watching my 9 year old and 7 year old. I have them until tonight. I also stated that I haven't talked to my current wife (with whom I've been separated for over 2 months) in nearly 5 days. But now... My first ex just called me to speak with my oldest daughters and she asked them to put the call on speaker phone... Then she asked them if they wanted to stay the night one more night with me so my current ex could bring my youngest daughter over tomorrow to hang out with them. So... Because I have broken off communication with my current ex, she is now working with my first ex on a plan that she hopes will put my current ex right in front of me tomorrow. It sounds like she's hoping to see me. She's trying to see me tomorrow. But I quickly retorted that I will be going out of town tomorrow. There weren't plans for any parenting time this weekend and I can't see my current ex. That wouldn't be good for the healing plan I have in place. I've told her that I don't want to see her (my current ex) anymore. (Even though I do want to see her and I still love her). Now I'm put into a weird situation. I can't see my current ex tomorrow. I need to be strong and heal. The agreed upon plan is to see the youngest daughter next Saturday with me going to the town in which they live while she is at work so I will see my mother-in-law instead of my ex. I feel like people are going to be mad at me and tell me that I should see my daughter this weekend if I can, but please just help me get through this next week so I can enjoy my time with her next weekend. I will appreciate reading your comments and criticisms. Thanks. T Edited January 4, 2008 by watchconcierge
Author watchconcierge Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 And how would it make you feel if you had what you thought was a surefire plan to get you in front of your ex only to find out that when your ex found out about the plan, he/she made sure he wouldn't be there to ensure that he/she wouldn't have to see you?
Lishy Posted January 5, 2008 Posted January 5, 2008 I think you need to stop being so conniving and just do the right thing by your children!
Lee725 Posted January 5, 2008 Posted January 5, 2008 HHHmmmm tricky one in my books, seems like you need time to get over the current EX, but at the same time feel you are not doing the right thing by your youngest daughter .... With all due respect to you and your children (dont take this the wrong way), you will not be a complete parent to any of your kids if your head is scattered and you are trying to deal with emotional issues. I am sure that you parent your children wonderfully when you have them, i am sure that you crave to be around them, but i am also sure that they would have mothers (both the ex's) that love them and care for them the same, so if you need a weekend alone to help you sort your head out, then you are entitled to that. EVERYONE, married, divorced, single, with kids, without kids, needs time to collect themselves and work their heads out. I say take the weekend off so you can offer your kids the best father in the world when you have them. People conspire, it is human nature whether it is about relationships or how to make a nice dinner on a tiny budget, they do it. You will not be able to avoid it, but you also will not be able to face it clearly with a scattered mind. I hope that made sense. Good luck.
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