undaunted Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 (edited) Hi, this is a followup of my previous thread, which is fifth or sixth thread below... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t140349/.. So last night, after having exchanged email on the dating site with her and 36 hours after she emailed her phone number to me, I mustered a nerve to text her as advised by many supporters here And this is what happened I: "Hi, Karen. This is Rick. I hope you had quite a day :)" immediately She : "Rick?" I:" We exchanged email online and I was given your number the other night :)" She: "Ah, yeah Rick. How are you? I am just in downtown:)" I : "I am good. Bet u r having a jolly time up there. Miss my heydays there " subsequently I : "Anyways, have a blast, but not too much fun and night nighty" <I thought that I wanted to play COOL, instead of clingy, prying and creepy..so I wrapped things up pretty quickly, instead of making her latching on to the cell phone while she is with her friend, having some quality time..> And that was it. No text me back or whatnot.. It was like 10:40pm and I surmised that she was having lots of fun with her friends doing things.. but still bummed... In particular, I felt bad that she did not recall me..well grant it she probably has received lots of email on the dating sites.. and I am one of them.. but she gave ME her number...and I atleast expected that she would remember my name... but what the hell.. I dunno know.. I am just bummed.. and it seems that she is not either awake or has no intention of texting me back... Ah..it sucks! Should I text her later? or should I just back off... more tips of the way in which I text her? Edited January 4, 2008 by undaunted
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 honestly, i would have called her instead of texted her (wish i came back on here to read your first post and tell you this I say this because its harder to ignore a phone call than a text regardless of what people say (plus its more effective as its ACTUAL communication of voices instead of words between two people; this also shows how much more confident you are and allows for better interaction) also, 10:40 pm? she was probably hanging out with her friends at some bar or something (getting drunk, having fun, whatever people like to do when they go out) i would probably give her a call this afternoon or evening (dont come off being too needy...so just let it go for a bit) and dont text her, just because you didnt get a response right away or at all doesnt mean you're done (no one always replies to texts right away or at all, im guilty of it and i've had it happen to me) and remember if you're really nervous just keep the phone convo short and simple (ask her how she is, how last nite was for her, and if she would like to meet up for coffee or something sometime this week/weekend) dont pry into her life, you dont know her and she doesnt know you. Save it for when the face to face happens (and work the magic and charm that you have )
Lizzie60 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I say move on.. If you really had made an impression on her... trust me she would remember you... This happened to me a few years back.. I couldn't remember his name... even after I had slept with him a few times... Sh*t happens...
Jordane Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I agree, call her and make small talk and offer meeting some time and then cut it short. Although, when I'm really into a guy even if I am just making a new friend and I enjoy their company, I would reply to a text and say "goodnight" back. Maybe she wasn't expecting you to actually act on it. I don't know but you've really got nothing to lose my calling her this afternoon so go for it.
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 lol but you still slept with him a few times...obviously there was somethin there
LoveLace Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I would call from now on instead of text. I don't mind a text or 2 at first; but I get annoyed if it starts to seem like the guy is all about texting and no calling. Especially if I've met someone online, I'd like to hear their voice. Talking over the phone is better because by texting you don't get an idea of her mood or feelings. I've seen people's personalites come across as very outgoing online, then when I get them on the phone I can hear birds chirping they are so shy. So talking on the phone is the next best thing to being in person.
Lizzie60 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 lol but you still slept with him a few times...obviously there was somethin there Yes but obviously not enough..
Lucasarts Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 ahahhaah well if thats your pic i'd be happy just to sleep with you a few times even if you didnt remember my name but seriously, act on what i say (RICK) i've had success doing it and in your situation it shouldnt fail (unless the girl really doesnt like you...to which that point, you cant win regardless)
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