Scooter25 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 Ok, so I was just curious to what everyone here thinks of this. My ex of four years and I have been done for about 6 months now. In October I found out she had already rebounded and I decided to cut off contact for good! It hurt because this girl wanted to marry me. Anyway, she has texted me about seven times since October wishing me Happy holidays and other random things, she even e-mailed after the Red Sox won the World Series. In that time I never even responed to any of them and on occasion deleted the texts without reading them. It annoyed me that she never called to see if I got any of these she just kept on texting. On New Years she sent me this "Happy New Year's!!! I'm only sayin it this late cuz I'm wrkn...I no u myte not wanna hear fm me but I still hope it's good!!" That text has now got me screwed up when I was feeling really good about myself and didn't care if I ever heard from her again. It brought me back here, now I'm not sure if I should contact her and tell her to leave me alone or see if this is an attempt to get me back. I mean she is just realizing I couldn't and didn't want to talk to her after not responding to any of her texts, either way I was curious to think what people thought. I mean I still love this girl I had in the past, but her rebound guy made me not want to be with her. I found that extremely immature and hurtful after fours years together and living together for a year and a half.
confuse80 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 i think she probably doing what my ex doing, still want to be friends because of the long past but he never realize how much it hurts me to listen to his voice. i think she already moved on and just want to be friends, i do too with one of my ex and we just friend now because there is nothing anymore. if you dont want her to contact you, say so and if she keep doing that, maybe you should block her numbers and email? or just say it rudely to her to just pissed off from your life.
confuse80 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 oh FYI my friend who used to be my ex, i contact him after we split for 2 years, so everything is settle between us and nothing much to save because we both already moved on. if you want to still be friends with her someday, tell her to back off and say that someday when you ready you will be the one who will call her.
ElvenPriestess Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 It's clear to me that she's moved on and there for she assumes you have to. She's ready to be friends, doesn't think about what you want. She isn't respecting you at all, if I wanted to be friends with an ex I wouldn't force it on him, I'd just tell him that's what I want. And if he says he can't do that, I would say ok and move on. If I were you, I'd call, or email, or whatever you are comfortable with, and say "Hey, I need my OWN time to heal, and I need you to back off the while friendship bit. Give me space until I've completely healed." And given her rebound thing, and obvious lack of concern for your feelings, that's a very nice thing you'd be doing. But it will help you out most of all.
Author Scooter25 Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 That's the thing that has me screwed up. I was moving on and quite nicely, untill that text. I told her when I last spoke to her it would be WAY to hard for me to ever be friends. But she kept on coming at me and I would shrug it off, until that last text. I also know that her rebound didn't last long either and she is done with him. So I'm confused if I should break my NC.
confuse80 Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 telling her off is not breaking NC i think, just keep it simple and straight forward and no discussion. or you can email her telling her to back off. but if you think you want to come back, talk to her then, maybe she change. as what she wants from you. i guess its ok.
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