Kasan Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I pm'd her first thing this morning, and never heard anything from her. Link to post Share on other sites
JackJack Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I would like to lend support. Wish I knew exactly who I was supporting though. If its infact the OP's friend that has done this, my heart goes out to all involved, especially the kids. If its the OP who is wanting or thinking or doing this, please reconsider this and get some help quickly. I also will go ahead and apologize in advance if this is really about your friend and not about a cry for help from you, but to me it all sounds so odd. Not trying to sound harsh or anything, just honest. I hope that the OP comes back soon to respond. Theres alot of replies to read through first I'm sure. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I pm'd her first thing this morning, and never heard anything from her. She hasn't been online since 12:45 am, this morning. If her profile hasn't been set to receive emails per PM, she may not know or for that matter care, that she has PMs, since she's got a lot of additional responsibility on her hands. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Suicide is a horrible selfish act and no amount of pitty of what leads a person to commit suicide is going to make it a good choice in my eyes or in the eyes of those who love the person in question and if this woman IS contemplating something as heinous as that she need to understand that this is the lowes thing you can to to others. I've had two people in different points of my life commit suicide one failed the other succeeded and it was the most horrific thing you can do to someone, and there is NO excuse for it. If you think it's cold to not want to coddle someone thinking suicide is ok, then you have no clue what it is like to lose someone to suicide NO CLUE. If you want to debate suicide, do a thread about it. Everyone has their views on this subject, so what you feel is right, may not be what someone else's view on it. Sidenote: Some feel that cheating is emotional suicide in a marriage. Guess there's no excuse for that either..... Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 If you want to debate suicide, do a thread about it. Everyone has their views on this subject, so what you feel is right, may not be what someone else's view on it. Sidenote: Some feel that cheating is emotional suicide in a marriage. Guess there's no excuse for that either..... This is a thread about suicide and I think is an apropriate place to discuss the right and wrong of it. Otherwise I don't see the point of this thread. Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Everyone has their views on this subject, so what you feel is right, may not be what someone else's view on it. Are you implying suicide is a good choice then? I am saying it is never a good choice I don't why anyone would argue me on that. Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 This is a thread about suicide and I think is an apropriate place to discuss the right and wrong of it. Otherwise I don't see the point of this thread. If you want to discuss suicide, it would be better to start a new thread. Otherwise you qualify for thread hyjacking and this thread will be closed. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 (edited) This is a thread about suicide and I think is an apropriate place to discuss the right and wrong of it. Otherwise I don't see the point of this thread. Did it ever occur to you that the OP needs support with agreeing to take on the addition load of 5 children, having a friend commit suicide and in some ways, reliving her husband's affair? Edited January 5, 2008 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 This is a thread about suicide and I think is an apropriate place to discuss the right and wrong of it. Otherwise I don't see the point of this thread. Yes, but picking it apart and having a discussion on everyones view on suicide is offtopic from the original post. That's all. Are you implying suicide is a good choice then? I am saying it is never a good choice I don't why anyone would argue me on that. Start another thread and we'll talk about it, as well as everyone else more than likely put their 2 cents in as well. Again, discussing this on THIS particular thread is offtopic to the original post posted. The mods will delete any off topic discussions, so start a thread sarme. Call it what are your views on suicide. Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 She hasn't been online since 12:45 am, this morning. No, TBF. Actually, her last post was at 3:45 a.m. and it was very unsettling to say the least. In it, she talks about her marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 No, TBF. Actually, her last post was at 3:45 a.m. and it was very unsettling to say the least. In it, she talks about her marriage. Note that it's three hours apart? Eastern standard v. Pacific time. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 How would one find the time to think "Let me post this on LS ...." in the middle of dealing with the death of a friend & taking care of the children of this friend? Now it's leaving room for doubt in my mind...... I have to agree with you and JackJack.. it seems strange that, even with 10 kids at home, the death of her friend on her mind... etc..etc... she finds the way to post this... strange.. plus I agree with Sarme... why the need to 'lecture' ? No one really knows her.. not even the OP... we can speculate until the end of time.. it won't change anything... Threads like this one do not change one's life perspective.. I am an OW.. I will not change my status because someone killed herself over her husband's affair... It is sad ... but life goes on for the rest of the planet. It reminded me of one thread on another forum... a woman who's child just got into a bad asthma attack was posting about it while it was occurring... ha-hem... I think she needed some attention... LOL I'm not saying that it's the case here..but I sure find some similarities.. Link to post Share on other sites
Lizzie60 Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 I'm sure his wife felt that way too. Noone knows how they'll react when pushed past their limit. Why do you think crimes of passion happen? Remember what's her name, that NASA woman, who drove across the country? A once respected and well established individual....It can happen to anyone, so never say never. Right on WWIU... never say never... it can happened to the most intelligent people... It happened to me... Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 OK, right, TBF! Still, she was talking about her recent marital problems! Something seems odd about the whole thing! Link to post Share on other sites
sarme Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Yes, but picking it apart and having a discussion on everyones view on suicide is offtopic from the original post. That's all. No it's not offtopic at all, it is very much on topic here is a woman who posted a story about a BS commiting suicide and she states "I hope people will consider the outcome of affairs" discussing suicide and how it is NEVER a good choice is very much on topic. I can relate to what she posted lhaving lived through two close people who did this to themselves and I think we can all learn from that, how is that being cold the fact that I don't want IF this woman is reaching out for help, for her to go down that path. If she is in despair she needs to see that is not the answer and realise how angry suicide can make people. The reason this thread would get closed is because you are not allowing to post my views and you are too caught up responding to my views, let it go and if you don't like what I post and you feel it is offtopic report it rather than challenge it. I don't see how stating that suicide is selfish and NEVER the answer NOT on topic? Link to post Share on other sites
Trialbyfire Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Don't similar discussions bring personal emotions to the surface? Link to post Share on other sites
blind_otter Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Dude this thread is totally going to be shut down.... Link to post Share on other sites
marlena Posted January 4, 2008 Share Posted January 4, 2008 Yes, I suppose, they can. If it were me, though, I now I'd be too devastated over the tragic loss of a friend to even think of talking about my own problem on a public forum. But that's just me! Link to post Share on other sites
Tony Posted January 4, 2008 Senior Moderators Share Posted January 4, 2008 Dude this thread is totally going to be shut down.... Actually you are quite correct. I can never understand how civil, educated, caring people can cause a thread...any thread...to degenerate to the lowest denominator after 15 or 20 posts. It happens just about every time. It's sad that people can't use some restraint when somebody gets out of hand or off topic and just report it instead of engaging them. Many people here seem to be dying for drama and chaos. Thread SHUT DOWN TO FURTHER POSTS! Link to post Share on other sites
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