BerksHubby Posted January 4, 2008 Posted January 4, 2008 I'm not at all nervous that my wife is cheating on me, but I'm trying to figure out where things are heading... We have been married for a while (about 9 years). We're typically the stay-at-home types, but occassionally we'll go out on the town. Same goes for how we dress - usually the Gap/Banana Republic crowd. About two years ago, though, my wife worked hard to get back into shape. Since then, she's started to mix in more skirts, tight jeans, revealing and low-cut shirts. I've encouraged her to dress up more, and I've told her that I do like it when other guys take notice to her...makes me proud, turns me on...that sort of stuff. Now she has a few very short skirts (I've measured six that are between 11 and 13 inches) and a whole stack of the low-low rise jeans. So far, would sound good, but lately I get mixed signals. I've brought it up to her (how she apears upset at first, then fine later) and she says everything is fine. Here are some examples: One time, we went to a party held by some friends. Before the party she again complained fiercely about dressing too provocatively when I suggested an outfit. She ended up wearing a short pleated skirt and leather boots. I warned her that she should be careful walking up steps and she thanked me for the info. She switched from angry to flirty on the way to the party. Several times during the night, she ran up and down the steps to the bathroom, each time her skirt would flip up showing her ass (she had on a thong - once or twice she showed that too). Later that night, she played ping-pong while some of the guys were seated in chairs along the wall behind her. Throughout the game she posed as if she was a pro waiting to return a serve. I was actually standing off to the side, and I could see some of her butt sticking out, so the guys behind were probably seeing everything when she bent over. Again she came home happy and bubbly, and completely turned on. Another time, we went out to a dinner for a group I belong to. I suggested a short dress, and she became very upset. She accused me of wanting her to dress like a bimbo and making her uncomfortable around other women. When I came home (just in time to leave for the dinner), I found her in a skirt that barely covered her butt and was really tight, a tight sweater, and tall heels (I think at least 3 inches). She had on tights, but they were very sheer. She gave me big smiles and made a point of flashing her underwear a few times. During the dinner we had to move from one room to another (appetizers to dinner). One of the guys she and I talked to most of the night pointedly stood to the side of the steps until SHE got to the steps and then told us we could go first. My wife walked up the middle of the steps in front of the other guy and me. Her skirt was short enough that she was showing her ass cheeks and her panties were just barely showing. I'm sure if I saw it, the other guy saw it too. She was talkative all night long (with me, with the couples at our table, etc.), and was very turned on when we got home. Also, over the years we've gone out to dance clubs before, and she's always dressed in short outfits. We don't go out as often now, but I notice lately (in the last few months) that she's not as concerned when guys "bump into her"...you know that not-so-innocent running into her with the palms of their hands turned up type of "bump". So I guess my question/concern is whether her actions are indicating that she's bored with me (or worse - about to stray), that she's truly upset and just trying to please me, or that she's somewhat an exhibitionist and just not quite ready to break out. I'm okay with her putting on shows that only lead back to me. I don't want her to feel trapped or pressured (well, I may plead for the outfits, but I don't want her to feel abused or forced to do it). I definitely want to do something about her feeling bored, if that's the case...
Author BerksHubby Posted January 4, 2008 Author Posted January 4, 2008 Sorry - didn't realize the post was accepted twice. Second thread has more info, but it's the same post. Sorry again.
MissMaris Posted January 7, 2008 Posted January 7, 2008 Her behavior is confusing and it does sound like she's giving you mixed signals. Well, for one thing...she obviously has more confidence in her body since getting into shape. However, she may have mixed feelings about it too. Women both want and don't want to be treated like sex objects. We both want and don't want to have our butt ogled by strangers. Sorry, but women get mixed messages constantly from the media. We're supposed to look like young, dewy teenagers all the time....but we're whores if we expose too much skin, wear our jeans too low-slung, our skirts too short or our shirts too tight. Try having a conversation with her about her feelings regarding her appearance. She may be kind of mixed up right now. Reassure her that she looks great but that you loved her before and you'll continue to love her, no matter what. Sometimes a change in appearance can resurrect all kinds of insecurities. I hope that these are just minor ones and that you guys can work through it.
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